Comments on: Staying in Touch With Your Military Spouse http://www.marriagemissions.com/staying-in-touch-with-your-military-spouse/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 13:29:51 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Mimi http://www.marriagemissions.com/staying-in-touch-with-your-military-spouse/comment-page-1/#comment-5116 Mimi Fri, 09 Oct 2009 03:54:06 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/staying-in-touch-with-your-military-spouse/#comment-5116 (USA) Where to begin; We are in our first long term deployment. Reality hits in our emails, telephone and video calls. We talk only about our children, money and nothing else. Oh, we are very polite and communicate "I love you". But I don’t know if it is really heart felt. I also believe that a lot of military marriages are dysfunctional, and the separation of a deployment just adds fuel to a flame that has been smoldering for years. Spouses learn to survive infidelity, and every abuse known because we men and women have given our all to keep the marriage intact. We have no career to speak of, thus no retirement benefits. But know that is not our driving point. On the spiritual side, many believe that marriage is forever and that we do what we have to in order to keep the partnership alive. But when there is a deployment thrust in the middle of living a marriage in survival zone, what do we do? How do we pray for a better relationship when the communication is the same? Nothing has changed and having no physical contact makes it even harder. How do I pray; how do I keep the faith that we will survive, because this is what God put together? (USA) Where to begin; We are in our first long term deployment. Reality hits in our emails, telephone and video calls. We talk only about our children, money and nothing else. Oh, we are very polite and communicate “I love you”. But I don’t know if it is really heart felt.

I also believe that a lot of military marriages are dysfunctional, and the separation of a deployment just adds fuel to a flame that has been smoldering for years. Spouses learn to survive infidelity, and every abuse known because we men and women have given our all to keep the marriage intact. We have no career to speak of, thus no retirement benefits.

But know that is not our driving point. On the spiritual side, many believe that marriage is forever and that we do what we have to in order to keep the partnership alive. But when there is a deployment thrust in the middle of living a marriage in survival zone, what do we do? How do we pray for a better relationship when the communication is the same? Nothing has changed and having no physical contact makes it even harder. How do I pray; how do I keep the faith that we will survive, because this is what God put together?

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