“There is a common worry among engaged couples that romance will fade months and years into their marriage. Pre-married couples don’t want the attraction and anticipation they feel today to fade into complacency and coldness tomorrow. They want to know how to avert what they believe is an inevitable romantic shortfall in the years to come.” (Jim Mueller)
It’s probably safe to say that none of us want our marriages to “fade into complacency and coldness” — whether we’re entering into marriage, we’re newly married, or we have been married for a while …or even a LONG time!
But how do we stop the “fading” from happening in our marriages? What are some secrets that could help us to combat that from happening?
Well, it certainly isn’t by letting romance take its own course after we say “I do” in the marriage ceremony. Life has a way of separating and isolating us from each other — even if we never thought it could happen to us. We could have the most romantic beginning to our lives together that anyone could ever imagine, but eventually, unless we put forth some type of intentionality into making sure the romance doesn’t “fade” or crash, for that matter, the downhill slide of becoming isolated emotionally apart from each other is inevitable. It’s just the natural course of matters such as this.
Author and radio host, Dennis Rainey talks about this in his book, “Staying Close.” He writes about the way that life can eventually cause “the drift of isolation” between those who are married. He writes,
“If there’s one thing worse than a miserable, lonely single, it’s a miserable, lonely married person. The irony is that no two people marry with any intention of being isolated from each other. Most of them feel that marriage is the cure for loneliness. The phrase, ‘Lonely Husbands, Lovely Wives’ would, for them, contradict what they think marriage is all about.
Isolation is like a terminal virus that invades your marriage, silently, slowly and painlessly at first. By the time you become aware of its insidious effects, it can be too late. Your marriage can be crippled by boredom and apathy, and even die from emotional malnutrition and neglect.”
He then goes on to say,
“Your marriage will naturally move more toward a state of isolation. Unless you lovingly and energetically nurture and maintain your marriage, you will begin to drift away from your mate. You’ll live together, but will live alone.”
And that isn’t something that we at Marriage Missions would ever like to see happen in your marriage! That’s why we are providing links below to a few web sites below which have articles posted on them that could help you to be more strategic in nurturing and maintaining your marital partnership.
The first article is written by Jim Mueller and is posted on the web site for Growthtrac.com. Please click onto the link below to read what Jim has to write on:
Another article which could help you to be intentional in romancing each other is written by Sabrina Beasley and is posted on the web site for the ministry of Family Life Today. In this article Sabrina gives you:
• 10 WAYS TO CREATE A MORE ROMANTIC BEDROOM
Another article, which is featured on Growthtrac.com is written by Jimmy Evans. If you click into the link below you will read about:
• BUILDING ROMANCE IN YOUR MARRIAGE
And still another article that may be helpful to your marriage which is posted on the web site for FamilyLifeCanada.org and is written by Dave Klassen with Glen Hoos, and Charlene Friesen. Please click onto the link below:
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