My husband however says that his actions speak louder than words (I know now that he feels awkward about being sentimental and finds it easier to say this). I struggled with that, that at one point I thought he really did not care for me and wanted to give up. With that belief in mind, I started looking at all his actions as of an unloving husband. I started withdrawing my sentimental efforts and I noted this made him even less expressive. Through prayer, lots of prayer, I came to realize that my thoughts were the main problem.

Secondary, I have learnt through reading, fellowshiping with other couples and observation that most men, my husband inclusive; find it hard to communicate sentimentally. But with time, and a lot trust building, he has improved but in many ways reciprocates differently- the way he smiles for me, gives me time, talks to me about his challenges, listens to my small talk, hugs me, introduces me to friends, loves the children, help my parents and relatives, participating in our house work and provides for us, …… and others but with minimal sentimental words!.

All these I have come to slowly understand are his way of communicating his love and appreciate the way God made him for me. He is unique, but different. I realize now what a gift I have. And now that I think of him as my Gift from God, every day I am amazed what a gift I have and love him more.