I never really thought I was a prime candidate for adultery. I was committed to our marriage, and I didn’t think I was what you would call “high risk.” So how did I get there?
The best description I ever heard was “baby steps.” I let myself get into a position of innocent intimacy with another female. Our conversations were innocent enough—family, friends, and ministry. But one baby step led to another and to another, and before I could turn and run, I was in way too deep. Falling was much easier than I’d ever believed possible. And at that point in our marriage, I was angry with Mona for putting me on the back burner of her priorities. I could point to many reasons why I could be angry with her, but the bottom line is that I felt she didn’t want me in any way at all.
But she was my wife. I loved her. I had made a commitment to her before God when we said our marriage vows. “I’m in for life,” I always said. But adultery changed things. When God brought me to that point of brokenness and it was time to get this all out in the open, I felt a sense of commitment that I knew could only come from God. I would use all my strength to convince Mona I was here to stay, and nothing she could do or say would change that. And boy, did I find out that she could do and say plenty! It had to be God’s strength that fashioned in me what I called “armadillo skin.” She used words I had never heard her say before. But I was committed.
After a few months on this plane, I found out what commitment was all about. I had started out with a purposed and diligent attitude. I was there at all hours—and I mean all hours—with answers to her questions. I talked and explained until I ran out of words. And then I got mad.
“Here we go again”, I thought. I was angry and tired. It wasn’t going like I’d thought it would. I’d figured if I could just get right with God and confess my sin, he would reward me with a healing process. I had sinned, yes, but I had also obeyed and dealt with the sin honestly—with God and with Mona and with my church.
I had done everything the way I was supposed to, yet the situation just wouldn’t get any better. I had expected a rocky road, but I hadn’t expected the road to get steeper and more treacherous with time. It seemed the more I tried to smooth things over, the angrier Mona got. Her barrage of questions continued to increase, and my anger reached new depths. I had committed the sin, yes, but how much punishment was I supposed to take?
After a few months, the shock wore off for Mona. I think she honestly wanted to forgive me and keep the marriage going, but as she became convinced of my sincerity, she grew angrier and more demanding. She insisted that I spend every waking moment convincing her I was here for the duration, that I wasn’t going to quit. And I had better answer every question exactly as I had answered that same question the last time and the time before and the time before. Any slight variance in my answer was cause for suspicion. Why had my answer changed? What wasn’t I telling her? What lie had I just been caught in? It was an endless assault.
Is this the life, the wife, I can expect from here on out? Am I to never be more than her whipping boy? It seemed the further we went into the supposed healing process, the further we went from a marriage partnership. I was beginning to lose hope. Quite frankly, if this was the way our lives were going to be, I wasn’t interested.
So what’s up with this, God? You brought me through for this? You’ve guided me—here? I’ve been faithful in every way since my confession. So where are you? Where is your mighty healing power? I thought you were on my side.
As I sat there screaming this prayer to God, I began to feel guilty. Who was I? The adulterer! The infidel! Who was I to think I deserved anything better? The issues that had brought Mona and me here were becoming more evident to me, and I was beginning to understand why couples didn’t survive infidelity. I was questioning our survival for the first time.
God’s allowance of divorce for adultery was beginning to make sense. The wounds were so deep for both of us. The intense pain pushed me to think about self-preservation and less about “us” preservation. But through all this I knew in my spirit that God wanted us to survive; it was in his will for our marriage to make it. But where are you, God? Where are you now?
Then I heard His still, quiet voice say, “I’m right here. And Gary, I’d rather have you right here, angry with Me, than not here with Me at all.”
Those few words spoke volumes to me, that picture of a loving Father wanting His angry son. How gracious He is. My anger didn’t push Him away. Our relationship meant more to Him than how I was behaving at the moment or how I had behaved in the past. His was the ultimate example of commitment.
Within a few short moments, a rush of understanding flooded my mind and heart. Suddenly I saw the parallel of my relationship with God in my relationship with Mona. The agape, self-sacrificial love that God has for me was the only model I could follow to get us through this crisis. It wasn’t going to come from me, but from Him through me. The only thing I had to do was to stay committed to God, to Mona, and to our marriage recovery. Not in my strength, Lord, but in Yours.
The above article comes from the terrific book, UNFAITHFUL… Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity — by Gary and Mona Shriver, published by Life Journey, an imprint of Cook Communications Ministries, www.CookMinistries.com and Kingsway Communications, www.Kingsway.co.uk. This is an absolutely terrific book! We can’t recommend this book highly enough! It’s written by a couple who have been through this horrible experience themselves. “More than ten years ago, Gary Shriver shocked his wife Mona, with a confession of his three-year affair — as well as a one-night stand.” It devastated their marriage! After Gary’s confession they struggled to keep their marriage together with all the strength they could muster and the Lord’s very real help!
What we appreciate about this book is how totally honest they are in their writings and how transparent they allow themselves to become as they diary the gut-wrenching struggle— each giving their own perspective during the healing process. This book is a great road map to follow to recovery! We wish every couple that goes through this terrible experience could read this book because it’s packed with so much that could help them.
This particular article was part of Gary’s testimony. Because of copyright privilege, we can’t include everything he had to say on this subject but we’d REALLY recommend if you can get the book to do so because he has a lot more to say throughout the book that will help others who have committed adultery. Also, the things that his wife Mona writes about will give further insight also — for those who have committed adultery and those who are the victims. This is a GREAT book! The authors Gary and Mona can be reached at www.hopeandhealing.us.
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(GHANA) I am in a similar problem. I fell for adultery and I confessed because I had a lot more that were lined up for me free of charge, but I did not want it. I love my wife so much I would do anything for her.
But the moment she asked and I confessed, she even went to the shrine to curse me. She insulted me as if she was waiting for me to screw up for her to rain her insults. But I never spoke back. If any one could pray with her for me, I would appreciate it so much. We have two kids. Please I can’t let go just like that. God be my helper. Amen
(ZIMBABWE) Wow and wow again. I understand what Mona went through. My husband did the same. I found myself so angry that I did not want to see his face let alone talk to him. I just wished he could vanish from the face of the earth. As one who has gone through this I can relate to the pain of betrayal. I feel that Mona must find it in her heart to begin the healing process. She has to pray for GOD’s help to forgive Gary.
Reading the article, I get this feeling that Gary is sincere. I think he should be given an allowance to rebuild his wife’s trust in him. My husband did this four times and my faith and constant prayer has helped keep my sanity. It is not easy to let go of the pain but Mona should try really hard to do this it is not worth living with it because you are the one who ends up hurting all the time.
(SA) All these messages touch me as I had experienced all these situations. Marriage is God’s will and Satan is always against what God has created. He is constantly trying and fighting and he will not stop until his own will is done. Thais’ why as Christians we have to fight so hard to keep our marriages going, then God will be so pleased with us his children. There is one thing that Satan is “good” at, HE DOES NOT GIVE UP. We can conquer this whole race by always praying and asking for God’s help and strength. Stay blessed.
(SOUTH AFRICA) Firstly let me say that I’m a BORN-AGAIN CHRISTIAN. This is the first time that I am talking about my adultery… having sex with another woman. Jesus states that when you merely look at another woman with those kind of thoughts, then you too have committed adultery… so currently I am still committing adultery on a regular and daily basis. What to do… what to do… Yes, I’m praying and reading my BIBLE daily…
I have, before it all happened, informed my Pastor and another church member of the advances being made by the other woman… they could not really advise me accordingly…
I tried resisting the temptation… even informed the HR officer at my workplace of the advances of this woman… took a while before my knees eventually buckled under the pressure. I thought that I could deal with the temptation and or advances of the other woman on my own, even got to thinking that I would be able to “counsel” her into leaving her ways… Boy was I mistaken! I judged others for falling into the trap of adultery… and as the BIBLE states, do not judge lest you be judged and fall into the same snare and or temptation…
I committed adultery with a woman a few years ago… have not yet informed my wife of it… (I LOVE my wife too much to see her go through the emtional pain and trauma that will be and is associated with this information). I come from a family where the curse of adultery is prevelant… and nearly all my aunts, uncles and parents and siblings have been associated with this kind of behaviour, including my grandparents. So as you can see, my family has one hellavu curse on them… I promised myself that I would never fall into this curse, but low and behold… the door was opened… and I fell into it… SLAP BANG INTO THE MIDDLE…
I don’t know if and when I will have the courage to inform my wife of it (my adultery) I’ve been living with this from 2000… when it first started till about 2002. All this time I TRULY loved my wife… even mentioned to the woman, that I loved my wife and that all that the other woman meant or had was SEX APPEAL…
I know that GOD has forgiven me for my transgression, as in the case of the woman caught in adultery, JESUS stated that we who are without sin is to cast the first stone… My concern that I have is, do I ever inform my wife? Or do I take this to my grave? I know the devastation this will bring not only to my wife, but also to my children and the extended family. My own parents were divorced when I was eighteen years old, and my biological father committed adultery on a regular basis… ended up with three wives… (this is in way making excuses for my behavior). Satan is out to kill, steal and destroy…
The BIBLE states that we are to confess our sins one to the other. But in today’s society, which is judgemental and unforgiving, is this advisable? We tend to shun those that do not live up too expectations. As previously stated… I have confessed my sins to GOD and still do on a daily basis… who is LOVING and FORGIVING… and remembers them no more.
Like the APOSTLE PAUL, I too, not that I want it… HAVE A THORN IN MY FLESH. And because of the thorn, I no longer JUDGE OR CRITICISE others for the wrong that they may be doing…. which I always did before commiting adultery.
I know that I am forgiven by GOD… He states that all sins are forgivable … barring one, and that is rejecting or grieving the HOLY SPIRIT and HIS SON, JESUS the CHRIST.
It is unbelievable the sense of peace that is upon me as I’ve written all of the above. Pray for me… and if it is GOD’s will for my life to LIVE with this THORN – not informing my wife and family, so be it… and if it is GOD’s will to inform them… I pray that they will be able to forgive me. Whatever HIS will regarding the matter, I pray that I will be able to say as JESUS prayed, not my will BUT THY WILL O LORD…
(USA) I will tell you that I am a woman that committed adultery before I became a born again Christian…I confessed it to my husband as advised by my pastor… and it hurt him immensely. I cannot say I would advise to share with your spouse… but I also know it’s not right to have secrets between each other. I know the LORD has forgiven me, but I for some reason cannot forgive myself and feel horrible when I see anything on tv regarding it… or hear about it … or whatever… nothing but hurtful consequences.
I would say to everyone, do not commit adultery… it is not worth it… it is one of my biggest regrets. I don’t know if I could help anyone through it cuz I still am very ashamed of myself.
(ZAMBIA) Hi C. I want to tell you that I am in the similar situation as you. Except, my husband had committed adultery first, and instead of being remorseful, he kept on pushing me away, until I found myself someone who would listen to me, who gave me all the attention. He was there for me when I needed a shoulder to cry on.
At some point my husband went through my mail and discovered I had been talking to another man. I feel so ashamed, I hate myself. I wish I had practiced forgiveness, but I harboured so much pain and really wanted him to be punished. Now he won’t talk to me; he is out and we have not seen each other for the past 6 weeks.
I want to ask for forgiveness from him and to tell him I regret my actions. I have realised hitting back does not do any good but harm.
I cry everyday. Help me remedy the situation. I thought I hated him, but why do I feel so much pain and miss him so much? I realised I don’t feel anything for the affair partner. I want my husband back. I need prayer right now.
(ZIMBABWE) Well that decision lies with you in the end to confess to your wife or not to but I only hope that you have learnt your lesson and would not want to repeat it in the future. In my case, my husband and I have been married for ten years and have two lovely kids. We are both Christians and I loved and trusted my husband because we have gone through so much together, losing both sets of parents and siblings and comforting each other through it all. I was deeply hurt when I found out that my husband was cheating on me and he confessed that he had other affairs before the latest one. He said he was sorry about it and those affairs never meant anything, his true love was with me and the kids. He wanted us to save our marriage and I decided to give him another chance coz I love my kids and wouldn’t want them to grow up in a broken home.
Its been four months now and I have to confess it’s not easy. I try not to be bitter but at times bitterness holds me back. I imagine a situation where it was me who had committed adultery and knowing him as an arrogant person I don’t think he would have forgiven me, so I say to myself why should I be the understanding one? I care for him but I don’t know if I still love him the way I used to before the adultery. If he goes away on business trips I no longer miss him like I used to. I used to dream and plan for our future but I have since stopped and I now concentrate on loving my kids more.
I meant my wedding vows but it seems he didn’t mean his so I no longer believe in him. I think I am shielding my heart from further hurt again. Please pray for me so that the bitterness I have may go away and that one day I learn to trust my husband again. I feel like I no longer know him. Adultery destroys love, trust and hope so please fellow Christians think about it carefully before falling into it.
(USA) I have been so devastated for the last two weeks upon learning that my wife of 9 years, 13.5 years together total, has admitted to adultery with the father of a brain injured patient she takes care of. Her excuse that I was not meeting her emotional needs may be true, but then again she tends not to believe how much I love her. Needless to say the pain is overwhelming and I cannot sleep at night and function very well.
To think that I paid this guy a lot of money to paint my house, offered to do free legal work for him, as well as dental work, makes the hurt so much worse as there was so much deception going on. When he could not come for the free dental work I was supposed to give him, my wife told me he felt uncomfortable being with me. Now I know why: Guilt.
To be honest, my wife and I met while we were both married to other spouses and thus we too began our relationship as adulterers. My experience of adultery was far worse than my present wife, as she had had only one partner before me, outside of her marriage, and that was a prominent plastic surgeron who forcibily kissed her to start the affair. However, when we finally committed to marrying each other I told my wife that I was so tired of all the deception, the lying, the guilt and the deceit that I carried out in doing my adultery that I wanted to stop and promise my new wife that I would have no more of this ilicit behavior in my system. Thus, for 13.5 years I did not touch another woman even though I had opportunites to do so and I began to be proud of myself for turning around such deceitful and horrible behavior.
The sin of adultery is not so much about the sex, it is the deceit and lies which must be told to perpetuate it and that I feel is the real damage. To look at your husband with a straight face and say you are going shopping while meeting this guy in a motel is so unnerving and hurtful, as the one who promised to take the best care of me, did not. I know affairs begin to meet unfilled emotional needs and they end because they are born in self centeredness and dishonesty. Those two factors will usually result in their destruction as no relationship can survive that is not based on honesty and consideration.
As a Catholic I have come to believe in the indissolubility of marriage and am compelled by Jesus’s teachings to forgive her adultery as on Judgment Day I wish to have my past adultery forgiven as well along with my other sins. The problem is that I see no remorse from my wife. Yet I am told that she is still bothered by the adultery she and I committed against her first husband. I wonder if her blase attitude is really masking overwhelming guilt.
I am committed to this relationship as I believe in for better or worse, the Church’s teaching on adultery, Jesus’s teaching on adultery and the fact that new research shows that people who are in unhappy marriages and work things out show the biggest improvement in happiness. Those who leave thinking they will be happier find they are no happier than people in unhapppy marriages. With a program like Retrouvaille there is an 80% success rate for hurting, healing couples.
The problem is there can be no recovery or reconciliation until the adultery stops and right now she has a husband who pays all the bills and gives her a nice lifestyle and she does not see that in jeopardy as she knows how committed I am to the relationship. What is truly sad is right before the wedding she came to me with tears in her eyes and asked: ” Robert do you promise to never abandon me?” and I said sweetie I never will.
I do not know want to do. Should I let the progress of time eventually lead to the destruction of their relationship as I do not beleive in divorce or what? I am told that the best thing is not to make her feel guilty but be loving and supporting, but it is so hard when she leaves on Friday and does not come back until Sunday and most likely she is with the adulterer.
She has a conscience and her guilt from her first adultery still bothers her. So when will her fear of God on Judgment Day kick in and allow us to rebuild from so many painful lessons? Any suggestions on how to deal with such an overwhelmingly difficult crisis which makes me almost not want to go on living somedays?
(USA) Well, it’s a very complicated situation. As it is you have opened the door for the deceitful spirit to come into your life. You just have to seek God’s face by praying and asking him for forgiveness and you should also ask your previous wife whom you left, for the present one to forgive you.
Your current wife is unrepentant and I think you should give her some space to let her sort out herself. Unfortunately for you you live in a society that allows a cheating spouse to get away with murder [literally] and still end up taking half of what you both own.
Regard this as your punishment and move on. And it’s not true that Catholics don’t divorce. Even the Bible says you can put your wife away if caught in the act of adultery.
Really no one can tell you what to do. At this point let her go and make your restitution with God. If it is his will it would work out. If not, start afresh this time; let no sin be laid at your doorstep.
(USA) Derin, your comment makes much sense, but I see it this way. First of all, with the growth of my Catholic beliefs I now believe in the indissolubility of marriage and this is a teaching directly from Christ himself and I also believe in the vows of for better or worse, in sickness and in health, and for richer or poorer. Everyone likes the for better part, everyone likes the for richer part, and everyone likes the in health part, but that is not the bargain that is asked for.
The easy thing to do would be accept such a blatant betrayal and move on, but Christ taught us that the better thing to do is show love to those who have harmed us the most. Yes, maybe I am finally being punished for all the adultery I committed on my ex-wife and God is probably finally showing me all the hurt I caused her and I could believe that. But I stopped 13.5 years ago and I think that demonstrated that I never wanted to do it again and for that I think God has shown me a better path.
We are all sinners and my wife has committed a terrible sin of deceit and adultery and again, this is devastating as the lies rolled off the lips so effortlessly. Some need was not being met and I take responsiblity for that, but when we went to Retrouvaille for a while she admitted she at times hated herself and felt the guilt from her adultery with her past husband was causing extreme damage in our relationship. I feel that she does not understand that Christian teachings tell us that sin is the first part of the equation but contrition and sorrow leads to forgiveness and a pure heart as that is what the blood of Jesus is about.
The hardest thing to do is show love to one who is hurting you so bad, but it is the right thing to do as I believe someday, whether now or in the future, she will realize what a forgving loving partner she had and thank God for that. The people who go to Retrouvaille for healing are hurting badly and many as a result of adultery, yet there is an 80% success rate. Statistics show that people who divorce find themselves no happier than people in an unhappy marriage as they tend to blame all of their unhappiness on their spouse, not realizing that they also contributed to the downward spiral of the relationship. Statistics also show that couples in an unhappy relationship who work things out make the biggest improvement in marriage and find themselves very happy 5 years later. If divorce from a spouse could bring happiness the divorcing party thought, then the next marriage should be better, but it is not.
So a person who marries for the 3rd time has a 72% chance of divorce and thus that is not the answer. Plus women who divorce twice have 4 times the rate of depression of nondivorced woman and much higher episodes of loneliness. Thus, it all points to the fact that the greatest chance for happiness lies in repairing the present marriage. I believe that God is capable of turning, hurting, lonely, bitter, angry, and desperate hearts into loving ones again as no human is capable of resisting God’s power to accomplish this.
Unfortunately, we live in a culture that teaches us to focus on our appearance, feelings, and desires as top priorites and chase the maximum level of happiness to attain these things. This is obviously contradictory to the sacrifice needed for a successful marriage. This culture of the self is based on a consumer entitlement society where I will keep my phone service as long as it is working for me but when it no longer does I will drop it for a better one. Thus, in this culture you are not happy with your spouse get rid of him or her for a new one who will make you happy all the time. Thus, we find ourselves chasing the illusory concept that one must be happy all the time or something is wrong.
No, the people who have had strong marriages that have met the test of time may have faced loneliness, rejection, unhappiness, and even adultery, but they have conquered these things and as a couple they have the important belief so necessary for marriage longevity that there is nothing that they cannot face and conquer with enough patience, love, and forgiveness and that is the side I find myself on.
Finally, I also believe that in the long run love will always triumph over sin and evil and deceit and that is the card I chose to play. The best example of this is the Prodigal son who left home and became profligate in his spending and his ways and on his way home feared he would be met with recrimination and excoriation by his father and thus was probably very uneasy when he made the decision to come home. To his surprise he was met by his father who rejoiced that he was home and ordered a party. That different welcoming to the Prodigal son probably changed his whole perception of what the message of love truly was. That unconditional love is what I will show to my wayward wife in the hope that God will spark the repentence in her and tell her to return to her husband and like Christ send to the woman who has to be condemned for adultery: “Nor do I thee condemn you, but sin no more.” That is the harder way, the way of uncondtional love, and most importantly the way Christ taught us to treat those who trespass against us. Dr. Robert
(DUBAI) Dr., I thank God for you my brother, because you asked God to intervene in your life when you really needed him. That was a bold step, and he did come through, because that is our God, ever so faithful, one who forgives our sins. Unless I missed something, I am not so sure if you are with your wife at the moment or not. But anyhow, I would urge you to love your wife unconditionally. I have no doubt about that, because it’s what you are doing. As a born again Christian, do not judge your wife, because I think she is not born again. But let her learn of Christ’s love by your actions, just like the Bible tells us to win them by.
You may need (both of you) to see a counselor, because your wife is still in bondage. That’s why the thought of her cheating on her first husband still lurks behind her. She has to let this guilt go and concentrate on this new life that you promised to give her. That’s the only way the two of you can then be on the same page and practice the vows you made to each other, to make things work this time.
Divorce and some habits like adultery can be curses. I pray that your wife gets to know the Lord, to be truly forgiven, and to break this string that is still binding her, because if she is at this point not yet over her past and moving on, it can be difficult for the two of you. There will always be something holding her back, like she feels indebted to her first hubby which is just the devils ploy to keep her away from enjoying a good, forgiven life. Don’t despair. With God, all things are possible.
(USA) Hi, I am just wondering if you were a born again Christian when you were committing this act of sin. Or did you become saved after the sin? I have committed adultery while being a born again Christian. I cannot forgive myself for this, nor do I feel as though God can forgive me either. Everywhere I look in His word now what I see is nothing but His wrath. I confessed and asked forgiveness from my spouse and our Lord. My husband forgave me although it has been hard for the both of us.
I feel that Hebrews 10:26 applies to me now. I am so scared, I feel like I lost fellowship with the Lord. I feel as though I am so lost now. I can’t sleep at night. I am tourtoued by this day and night. Did you go through this? I do not have God’s peace or joy anymore. My life has become very difficult for me now. I can’t go on without God. I feel I lost my savior. Please help. Thanks. Broken, Lisa
(ZIMBABWE) Surviving in a relationship after one of the spouses has committed adultery is very difficlut. My husband committed adultery and we ended up both being HIV positive and it was not easy. Guys, we really need to learn to forgive each other though it’s not easy. We went to our pastor after finding out that we were positive and he had not yet confessed anything. Pastor advised us to first talk and forgive each other before he prayed for us. It took him almost a year before he revealed the truth that he had an extra marital affair and what hit me most was he blamed me that he commited adultery. l had too forgive him though at times, the thing comes back in my mind. Pastor prayed for us and we are now both negative. A forgiving heart is a characteristic of love. THE DEVIL FIGHTS MARRIAGES AND IF WE ARE NOT STRONG WE WILL END MARRYING FOUR OR FIVE TIMES IN OUR LIVES.
(USA) Hello Terry, Thank you for your testimony, it’s such a big help. What are the odds of two HIV positive people being diagnosed as negative after prayer? It shows that our Lord lives and still does miracles in things that medicine can’t. This gives all of us hope that if we stay in the will of God our problems will be solved. God hates divorce and whatever marriage problems we have, He can solve. He is the Creator, the life we have was all his idea. Yes, marriage has some of the biggest life challenges but our God who loves us is above every trouble we have. Faith is good for us.
Hebrews 6:10-12
Hebrews 10:35-38
(SOUTH AFRICA) I’m saved and love the Lord Jesus Christ who saved my life, and so does my husband who is a deacon and a music minister. I am in so much pain, me and my husband allowed a lady to come home and stay with us during the weekends for some time, while my husband was producing her music. She told us she was saved and with that she was doing some strange gospel like album.
During those times it later turns out they were having some sexual thing going on during the recording sessions in the studio in my home. As my husband could not live with himself he got convicted and confessed to God and later to me. We are busy trying to heal by God’s grace. As difficult as it is now that the matter is in the open, the lady turns around to say she wants to press rape and sexual assault charges against my husband. l need God to help me to heal and to forgive her and forgive my husband in peace. l was not looking forward to court or anything worse than what she has already put me though.
(AMERICAN SAMOA) Goodness Liso. I’m so sorry to hear that. Unfortunately most of the time the men are weak and they often fall into temptation and things such as this happens. I, too, am having issues with my ex-husband who I had reconciled with, and then I later found he was seeing an old girlfriend, someone he had dated before we decided to get back together. They broke up and then he and I got back together, but he didn’t inform me that they had gotten back together after him and I. I didn’t find out until months later.
After finding out I was almost two months pregnant. I let him go hoping he’d come to his senses right away, but it wasn’t until I stopped being angry and I decided to talk to him that he decided his first priority would be to get to his kids and then him and I would go from there. Prayer does help because I prayed and believed every single day that somehow we would get some place good again and here we are. It’s not far, but it’s somewhere, and he was taken back by my mentioning God.
Liso, I will pray for you every day. God bless you and don’t be discouraged. There are people who go through situations with pain and anger, but God always helps them through. God has always helped me through because of my faith and I encourage you to be strong in yours. And God will reveal the truth. Mark 4:22 says “Forever, whatever is hidden is meant to be disclosed and whatever is hidden is meant to be brought out into the open.” If that woman is lying, God will come through and reveal the truth for you. Pray and be strong in your faith. Everything will be ok. God bless you, Liso.