Comments on: The Consequences Of Bitterness http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-consequences-of-bitterness/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:25:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: Rachel http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-consequences-of-bitterness/comment-page-1/#comment-3631 Rachel Mon, 18 May 2009 15:13:03 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-consequences-of-bitterness/#comment-3631 (NIGERIA) I got married a little over 11 years ago and have 3 lovely girls. My husband had affairs with 9 women in our 11 years of marriage, slept with 4 of them, one of them was my very best friends in our own sitting room twice. He did all sorts of orals with the remaining 5. One of them a widow and a mother of 3, his colleague, went diabolical doing all sorts of things to get rid of me. They had sex in our car, in his office, in her house and he even followed her to a hotel. She was the one in charge of his wardrobes, feeding and bank accounts. He came back to his senses and confessed all, and he's been back since then, still begging me till date to forgive him. He's now changed and reverted to the way we started. Thank God for answered prayers. Though I am still hurting but I know that very soon, I will be fully restored and I will not feel the pain as such again. (NIGERIA) I got married a little over 11 years ago and have 3 lovely girls. My husband had affairs with 9 women in our 11 years of marriage, slept with 4 of them, one of them was my very best friends in our own sitting room twice. He did all sorts of orals with the remaining 5. One of them a widow and a mother of 3, his colleague, went diabolical doing all sorts of things to get rid of me. They had sex in our car, in his office, in her house and he even followed her to a hotel. She was the one in charge of his wardrobes, feeding and bank accounts.

He came back to his senses and confessed all, and he’s been back since then, still begging me till date to forgive him. He’s now changed and reverted to the way we started. Thank God for answered prayers. Though I am still hurting but I know that very soon, I will be fully restored and I will not feel the pain as such again.

]]> By: Hilda http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-consequences-of-bitterness/comment-page-1/#comment-3314 Hilda Mon, 06 Apr 2009 10:19:30 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-consequences-of-bitterness/#comment-3314 (ZIMBABWE)  Firstly I would like to thank Steve and Cindy for the inspirational articles I receive weekly. I am also in the process of trying to rebuild my marriage. My problem is somewhat unique in that my husband does not ask the maid out or force her into having sex but goes around sniffing her pants. At the time being he is unemployed and stays at home most of the time. He goes in the maid's room and touches her pants. I am not really sure what he does with them but I think he puts his organ on her pants and probably imagines having sex with her. This had been going on for quite a while. I had to change my maid in the hope that he would change. I feel like I am fighting a losing battle. From his actions it seems he is possessed by a demon/evil spirit. I used to blame myself thinking that I was not fulfilling his needs but when I read your article on Adultery of the Mind, I realised I am not to blame. What should I do ? (ZIMBABWE)  Firstly I would like to thank Steve and Cindy for the inspirational articles I receive weekly. I am also in the process of trying to rebuild my marriage. My problem is somewhat unique in that my husband does not ask the maid out or force her into having sex but goes around sniffing her pants. At the time being he is unemployed and stays at home most of the time. He goes in the maid’s room and touches her pants. I am not really sure what he does with them but I think he puts his organ on her pants and probably imagines having sex with her.

This had been going on for quite a while. I had to change my maid in the hope that he would change. I feel like I am fighting a losing battle. From his actions it seems he is possessed by a demon/evil spirit. I used to blame myself thinking that I was not fulfilling his needs but when I read your article on Adultery of the Mind, I realised I am not to blame. What should I do ?

]]> By: Armie http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-consequences-of-bitterness/comment-page-1/#comment-3313 Armie Mon, 06 Apr 2009 00:30:48 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-consequences-of-bitterness/#comment-3313 (PHILIPPINES) I've been married for over 12 years now. My husband was caught by my friend having an affair with another woman. It put our marriage on the verge of splitting, and caused a lot of pain and remorse. My husband kept on asking for forgiveness for two years until it finally sank into me that he was sincere. Slowly we rebuilt our relationship anew. I keep on reminding myself of that every time his past haunts me, that it's over. I even forgave the other woman. Now he is trying very hard to earn my respect and trust by telling me all the time what he is doing or where he is whenever he is on his job site or far from me. What I have learned from this experience is to forgive, forget the past, and most of all trust in God that He is in complete control over my marriage. I know that we will still have to go through a lot of trials and testing through our marriage but the good news is God is on our side; He will never leave us nor forsake us. (PHILIPPINES) I’ve been married for over 12 years now. My husband was caught by my friend having an affair with another woman. It put our marriage on the verge of splitting, and caused a lot of pain and remorse. My husband kept on asking for forgiveness for two years until it finally sank into me that he was sincere. Slowly we rebuilt our relationship anew. I keep on reminding myself of that every time his past haunts me, that it’s over. I even forgave the other woman.

Now he is trying very hard to earn my respect and trust by telling me all the time what he is doing or where he is whenever he is on his job site or far from me. What I have learned from this experience is to forgive, forget the past, and most of all trust in God that He is in complete control over my marriage. I know that we will still have to go through a lot of trials and testing through our marriage but the good news is God is on our side; He will never leave us nor forsake us.

]]> By: Jen http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-consequences-of-bitterness/comment-page-1/#comment-3309 Jen Sun, 05 Apr 2009 15:20:06 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-consequences-of-bitterness/#comment-3309 (USA) My husband has been in some very sinful acts throughout our 12 yrs. of marriage. I have forgiven him many times now. I have nothing more to give. There is no cushion for this emotional relationship. Every time we go ten steps ahead something happens and I go 12 back. (USA) My husband has been in some very sinful acts throughout our 12 yrs. of marriage. I have forgiven him many times now. I have nothing more to give. There is no cushion for this emotional relationship. Every time we go ten steps ahead something happens and I go 12 back.

]]> By: Sunday http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-consequences-of-bitterness/comment-page-1/#comment-2715 Sunday Fri, 13 Feb 2009 16:00:01 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-consequences-of-bitterness/#comment-2715 (UNITED STATES) I am so sorry for you. My husband has betrayed me in so many ways drugs, money, mental and verbal abuse, cheating, you name it he has done it. I have been married for 21 years and have three teens one in college. I thought I was hearing from God telling me to stay and pray for my husband so he my know God. I now question it all. I even question God. (UNITED STATES) I am so sorry for you. My husband has betrayed me in so many ways drugs, money, mental and verbal abuse, cheating, you name it he has done it. I have been married for 21 years and have three teens one in college. I thought I was hearing from God telling me to stay and pray for my husband so he my know God. I now question it all. I even question God.

]]> By: Mary http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-consequences-of-bitterness/comment-page-1/#comment-1779 Mary Tue, 16 Sep 2008 12:35:34 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-consequences-of-bitterness/#comment-1779 (ZAMBIA)  I have been humiliated. I feel so hurt and so bitter towards my husband whom I found out forcibly had sex with my house keeper. My family is aware of that and wondering why I can not just leave him. I am trying to let go of the pain I am feeling, but it is not simple. He did not show any signs of being unhappy. I thought we had a good thing going. He tells me it meant nothing and that he still wants to live with me. I used to leave him with my housekeeper all alone from the time I start work at 08.00 hours to 17.00 hours when I knock off from work. He has not been working for the past 2 years and is always at home. I am just hanging in there because I have a child who is about to write her 7th grade final exam in the the next 2 weeks. I am being strong for her so that she does not get disturbed. I am planning to leave him immediately my daughter writes her exams. I am equally bitter with my housekeeper, who confessed that my husband would drag and push her until he had sex with her. She told me she could not tell me the first time it happened because he promised it would not happen again and that she should not spill the beans. But it happened the second time, then the third and that is when she told me whilst crying (in his presence). This bitterness is giving me ideas to just hit back at him. I feel like I can get into a relationship and have sex 3 times as revenge so that we are even. I know this is crazy, but nothing I do is taking away my pain. (ZAMBIA)  I have been humiliated. I feel so hurt and so bitter towards my husband whom I found out forcibly had sex with my house keeper. My family is aware of that and wondering why I can not just leave him.

I am trying to let go of the pain I am feeling, but it is not simple. He did not show any signs of being unhappy. I thought we had a good thing going. He tells me it meant nothing and that he still wants to live with me. I used to leave him with my housekeeper all alone from the time I start work at 08.00 hours to 17.00 hours when I knock off from work. He has not been working for the past 2 years and is always at home.

I am just hanging in there because I have a child who is about to write her 7th grade final exam in the the next 2 weeks. I am being strong for her so that she does not get disturbed. I am planning to leave him immediately my daughter writes her exams.

I am equally bitter with my housekeeper, who confessed that my husband would drag and push her until he had sex with her. She told me she could not tell me the first time it happened because he promised it would not happen again and that she should not spill the beans. But it happened the second time, then the third and that is when she told me whilst crying (in his presence).

This bitterness is giving me ideas to just hit back at him. I feel like I can get into a relationship and have sex 3 times as revenge so that we are even. I know this is crazy, but nothing I do is taking away my pain.

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