Comments on: The Journey of Forgiving Yourself http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-journey-of-forgiving-yourself/ a Christian Marriage Website Fri, 19 Mar 2010 06:55:22 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Mary http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-journey-of-forgiving-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-6096 Mary Fri, 22 Jan 2010 10:45:42 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-journey-of-forgiving-yourself/#comment-6096 (ZAMBIA)  I am struggling to forgive myself. I have been coming to this site since 2007. I went through a major heartbreak in which my husband had forciful sex with my housekeeper in August 2008. The relationship was very bad between that time and last year. We were living totally different lives. I expected him to be remorseful for what he had done, but he kept pushing me away. With time I linked up with an old friend through a networking site. He would say things to me that my husband had never said in a long time. Just communicating with him made me feel better and I had a different glow on my face each time we talked. My husband hacked into my mail box and read the mails between himself and I, and all hell broke loose. I tried to explain to him that all that came about because he had withdrawn from me. I was so lonely and vulnerable for over a year and he never cared. I wanted my husband back, but he pushed me away. I am feeling very sad at the moment as this is not really me. I know God says it's not for us to take vengeance, but I took it in my own hands and got involved with somebody else. I feel so guilty and ashamed I dont know what to do. I feel like even if I pray, I have committed such a sin and God is not happy with me. My husband has been away for one month and won't take my calls. I have asked for forgiveness repeatedly, but he is still very cross with me. I am so confused, I dont know what to do. Why can't he see that that's exactly how I felt when he committed adultery right in our house? I hate myself right now, I really don't know what to do. (ZAMBIA)  I am struggling to forgive myself. I have been coming to this site since 2007. I went through a major heartbreak in which my husband had forciful sex with my housekeeper in August 2008. The relationship was very bad between that time and last year. We were living totally different lives. I expected him to be remorseful for what he had done, but he kept pushing me away.

With time I linked up with an old friend through a networking site. He would say things to me that my husband had never said in a long time. Just communicating with him made me feel better and I had a different glow on my face each time we talked. My husband hacked into my mail box and read the mails between himself and I, and all hell broke loose.

I tried to explain to him that all that came about because he had withdrawn from me. I was so lonely and vulnerable for over a year and he never cared. I wanted my husband back, but he pushed me away.

I am feeling very sad at the moment as this is not really me. I know God says it’s not for us to take vengeance, but I took it in my own hands and got involved with somebody else. I feel so guilty and ashamed I dont know what to do. I feel like even if I pray, I have committed such a sin and God is not happy with me. My husband has been away for one month and won’t take my calls. I have asked for forgiveness repeatedly, but he is still very cross with me.

I am so confused, I dont know what to do. Why can’t he see that that’s exactly how I felt when he committed adultery right in our house? I hate myself right now, I really don’t know what to do.

]]> By: Eric http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-journey-of-forgiving-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-1720 Eric Fri, 05 Sep 2008 15:22:04 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-journey-of-forgiving-yourself/#comment-1720 (SINGAPORE)  This is so true; the need to forgive ourselves is so essential in the process of healing. But the devil will always cause us to feel guilty and doubtful. It is especially so when something not good is happening to us and we wonder if God is punishing us for the wrong of the past. We have to constantly remind ourselves of God's forgiveness. (SINGAPORE)  This is so true; the need to forgive ourselves is so essential in the process of healing. But the devil will always cause us to feel guilty and doubtful. It is especially so when something not good is happening to us and we wonder if God is punishing us for the wrong of the past.

We have to constantly remind ourselves of God’s forgiveness.

]]>