Comments on: The Mark Of A Great Husband http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/ a Christian Marriage Website Sat, 21 Nov 2009 00:25:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.3 hourly 1 By: John http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-3442 John Sat, 25 Apr 2009 03:37:55 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/#comment-3442 (UNITED STATES)  I am looking to grow as a husband to my wife. I cut off all of my friends who are not married and don't respect the fact that I am married. I am a great father but I sometimes struggle as a husband. I don't fuss, argue, or be abusive towards my wife. I just want to join some sort of married mens group for advice coming from other successful married men. (UNITED STATES)  I am looking to grow as a husband to my wife. I cut off all of my friends who are not married and don’t respect the fact that I am married. I am a great father but I sometimes struggle as a husband. I don’t fuss, argue, or be abusive towards my wife. I just want to join some sort of married mens group for advice coming from other successful married men.

]]> By: Lee http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-1300 Lee Mon, 07 Jul 2008 18:31:46 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/#comment-1300 (USA)  Hi, Just wanted to point you to www.marriagebuilders.com website. They are amazing! They can even provide phone counseling, and give wonderful advice on trying to win your wife back, and how to restore trust in a relationship. Not the typical advice, where they are soft on offenders and all feelings oriented. They are no nonsense, to the point folks with an actual gameplan for the people who meet with them and are the best I have seen. (USA)  Hi, Just wanted to point you to http://www.marriagebuilders.com website. They are amazing! They can even provide phone counseling, and give wonderful advice on trying to win your wife back, and how to restore trust in a relationship. Not the typical advice, where they are soft on offenders and all feelings oriented. They are no nonsense, to the point folks with an actual gameplan for the people who meet with them and are the best I have seen.

]]> By: Sarah http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-1166 Sarah Sat, 21 Jun 2008 16:03:22 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/#comment-1166 (NIGERIA) My heart goes out for you. Honestly, I do not think I have any words for "your season". I just thought I'd let you know that I prayed for you and for your wife too. I know that God will come true for you both. (NIGERIA) My heart goes out for you. Honestly, I do not think I have any words for "your season". I just thought I’d let you know that I prayed for you and for your wife too. I know that God will come true for you both.

]]> By: LT http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-467 LT Tue, 04 Mar 2008 23:22:31 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/#comment-467 (USA) I am sorry to read your current situation, Phill. What to say? Well it's good you felt convicted to not only stop committing adultery, but to tell your wife about it, too. There are some things that are too big to keep secret. Considering it had been so long since your last indiscretion (I'm guessing more than a year) and when you told your wife about everything, it sounds as though she is not a Christian? The way of Christ is forgiveness. You've already confessed to God (and your wife) and are confident in Christ's forgiveness of you. And you've changed your ways. There is nothing else really required of you on this matter, it sounds. The Bible does give adultery/infidelity as one of only 2 possibilities for divorce in the Bible (I Cor. 7), but it is disheartening that your wife was unable to find it in her heart to forgive you anyway. I, personally, can't tell you how to proceed. Only your relationship with Christ can. It's a very tough call - one that I don't envy. Draw to God for strength and guidance in your coming weeks and months. I suppose at some point it will be made clear whether reconciliation is at all possible or whether your ex-wife clearly wants to move on, with no turning back. But your relationship with Christ and the guidance of the Holy Spirit in you will guide you when the time comes to make a final decision (or accept hers). With Christian love and prayers, LT (USA) I am sorry to read your current situation, Phill. What to say? Well it’s good you felt convicted to not only stop committing adultery, but to tell your wife about it, too. There are some things that are too big to keep secret.

Considering it had been so long since your last indiscretion (I’m guessing more than a year) and when you told your wife about everything, it sounds as though she is not a Christian?

The way of Christ is forgiveness. You’ve already confessed to God (and your wife) and are confident in Christ’s forgiveness of you. And you’ve changed your ways. There is nothing else really required of you on this matter, it sounds.

The Bible does give adultery/infidelity as one of only 2 possibilities for divorce in the Bible (I Cor. 7), but it is disheartening that your wife was unable to find it in her heart to forgive you anyway.

I, personally, can’t tell you how to proceed. Only your relationship with Christ can. It’s a very tough call – one that I don’t envy. Draw to God for strength and guidance in your coming weeks and months.

I suppose at some point it will be made clear whether reconciliation is at all possible or whether your ex-wife clearly wants to move on, with no turning back. But your relationship with Christ and the guidance of the Holy Spirit in you will guide you when the time comes to make a final decision (or accept hers). With Christian love and prayers, LT

]]> By: Phill http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/comment-page-1/#comment-466 Phill Tue, 04 Mar 2008 19:31:13 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-mark-of-a-great-husband/#comment-466 (USA) I was married while living in sin and continued to sin in marriage. I was grossly immoral and soon after marriage broke my marriage covenant by being with multiple women. While I was living this Dr. Jeckel Mr. Hyde life, my wife was oblivious of my indiscretions. I became so convicted as now, a dedicated Christian, I confessed after 26 years of marriage, even though it had been many years since I decided to stop messing around. My wife was devastated to learn of the deception and insisted on a divorce, which is where I am today. I love my wife and would give anything for her to forgive me and seek the possibility to a restored relationship. However, it appears that this is too much to ask for, and she is pursuing her own life. I know that God has forgiven me and believe that he is guiding my steps towards his purpose for my life, and that through God anything can happen. It has been a year since I confessed and I live a separate life from my ex-wife and I am content to give my wife the time she needs to see if she can come around. However I am afraid of how I might feel when and if she starts to date other men. I don’t know how long I should just wait and see what might happen. (USA) I was married while living in sin and continued to sin in marriage. I was grossly immoral and soon after marriage broke my marriage covenant by being with multiple women. While I was living this Dr. Jeckel Mr. Hyde life, my wife was oblivious of my indiscretions. I became so convicted as now, a dedicated Christian, I confessed after 26 years of marriage, even though it had been many years since I decided to stop messing around. My wife was devastated to learn of the deception and insisted on a divorce, which is where I am today.

I love my wife and would give anything for her to forgive me and seek the possibility to a restored relationship. However, it appears that this is too much to ask for, and she is pursuing her own life. I know that God has forgiven me and believe that he is guiding my steps towards his purpose for my life, and that through God anything can happen.

It has been a year since I confessed and I live a separate life from my ex-wife and I am content to give my wife the time she needs to see if she can come around. However I am afraid of how I might feel when and if she starts to date other men. I don’t know how long I should just wait and see what might happen.

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