Comments on: The Power of a Praying Husband

By: Tony

Tony — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 19:25:28 +0000

(USA) Shanti, I’ve been a born again believer for almost 40 years. It’s only by grace through faith that I’m saved, that my sins are forgiven, and that I’m washed as white as snow through the blood of the lamb that was slain on Calvary.

I actually worked with Dr Harley’s son in coaching when I was still married to my ex-wife. I eliminated LB’s, worked on meeting EN’s (which she really wouldn’t allow since she had run off with her affair partner.)

So not only do I have the books, but I worked personally with the Marriage Builders team to no benefit to my former marriage. I have the notes, the assignments, etc. I’ve done the questionnaires. But then none of that is useful if your spouse doesn’t end the affair and do the work as well. So I’m now divorced and since remarried years after the divorce.

But again, it’s only by faith in God I still believe. Because if my belief require proof, I’d have left the faith years ago, given the lack of answers to prayer.

By: Shanti

Shanti — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 15:04:04 +0000

(GUYANA) Dear Tony, One thing I’ve learn from God is that we need to examine our life. First, did you obtain the gift of salvation from the Lord? Did you confess all your sins to God and man (whoever you may have wrong)? Did God give you assurance that your sins are forgiven from the Bible?

If our life is not in order with God, we sometimes wonder why things are not working out for us, but sometimes we are the one who are hindering the progress.

Faith is something that has to be worked at. I don’t think people get married to be separated. We need to continue in prayer. Sometimes changes does not happen right away, sometimes it takes years. (Please read the life of JOB in the Bible) I have read a book too about marriage titled “His needs Her Needs”. Maybe you can read that too. May God help you to be strong and show you all his plans for your life.

By: Tony

Tony — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 18:11:36 +0000

(USA) What is sad is when God says no to such prayers. I recall years ago, when my now ex-wife was in her affair and I got this book. I faithfully prayed every prayer in the book numerous times as I went through it daily, and nothing changed. The affair continued, no protections, no strengthening of the relationship, no insights on how to love, etc.

So how would I recommend this course of action to others, given how fruitless it was for me? Notice the key is in this statement, “…but our problems only work themselves out when she and I join with God to solve them.” If only one is praying, it apparently is a fruitless exercise.

Just felt the need to share that, lest anyone think that their prayers alone will help.

I almost lost my faith due to the lack of answers to the prayers in this book not to mention how the prayers of my family and friends to see the marriage restored were given a “no” answer.

I really don’t want to see anyone else have to experience the pain of knowing they are praying for something clearly in the will of God, yet God doesn’t act in a fashion that brings about His well stated will with regards to family and marriage.