Lord, I am praying that YOU, Father reveals the truth to Linda’s husband so that he can be reassured of hers but most of all YOUR faithfulness and let go of his bitterness and anger can be released. So that Joy may be restored. Father, the devil would love to tear this family apart but I just pray Your protection over them and that the can come together in YOU. I pray this in your son Jesus’ name. Amen.

God Bless you girl. Love, Lynne

While he was away, he started accusing me of having affairs because that is what he heard. There were no affairs but he was and is still convinced they were there and this has caused him to treat me badly it hurts me so much and I find it difficult to pray. He is also now drinking everyday and says he cannot go to church. This also hurts me because my children are growing up without the father raising them in way of the Lord. I am worried about how this will affect my children. My son already does not want to go to church and I have to force him.

So many times I have thought of just packing and leaving but then I think of what the Bible says, but then I always ask myself if it is what God wants for us to be in so much pain day in and day out. Sometimes I find my own faith wavering and not really believing that God can save my marriage. Please pray for me that I can remain strong in the Lord and that I will learn to pray for my husband and my marriage and to totally trust in God for everything. I am about to start reading Power of a Praying Wife and I am excited about it because I have heard so many good things.

Things with my marriage are still rough, but we are trying. My husband has made so many changes but things still hurt. God is healing though. Please just pray for us. We could use it. Seems like there’s been a little back sliding lately. But praise God we are now in a samll group at church that is focusing on marriage. So hopefully it will help. The thing that is awesome is that God spoke to my husband to choose the small group that was based on marriage and the hubby actually suggested. Thank goodness. God is working. We also welcomed our second child last month. He is so beautiful. Praise God.

How is everyone elese doing? Cindy, LT, Anne,Sue, Miss ya ladies. I still pray for you occationally. I will step it up is there anything new I can pray for? Love, LYNNE

For past year or two we have been arguing a lot. There’s a lot of misscommunication and misunderstandings and we start arguing. We are living in separate homes that we own because the arguing got so bad. We visit each other. We are in our 60s and he is impotent because of diabetes, so sex is no longer a part of us. He has been retired for the past 5 years, but he stays active with hobbies and things. I am also retired.

The arguing has gotten so bad that I’m thinking about divorce. Even living apart is not helping. I don’t know how much more I can take. The aggravation and the strife is really bad. I still love him and he says he still loves me, but I’m not sure if love is enough for us. Just wanted to unload. Thank you.

God is Love my dear, when it comes to us, we are special. Talk to GOD and ask Him for everything that you need Him to do for you. He will surely do it for you. Also pray for your husband. You can’t change him, but GOD can.

How do I talk to him? I have tried to talk to him. He wont say anything to me. I asked him what he wanted to eat; he turned around and said he wont eat food made by me. He has been drinking since 09:00 CAT time. What should I do? I have prayed; I don’t know what to do now. Please help me or pray for us. He wont even sit in the same room.

I tell you when I came back home and saw this prayer, it was than that I realized what God made me do and it was because of this unforgiveness that his power and miracle was not able to flow in my life.

Pray this prayer but pray it with Faith… God truly answers, although it takes time for some of us. But his timing is perfect. Love and prayers, RD

My husband is saved but he has completely backslidden. He has compromised our values and allowed things into our home that are ungodly. I am one of the leaders of a ministry for women held once a week at another location. I have sought counsel as to whether I should step down from this ministry because my husband is my primary ministry.

The advice I was given was to be willing in the heart to give that up if I felt God was asking me to. I do feel that this is a spiritual attack directed at me. The “before-Christ” anger problems and selfishness he used to portray are back, and all seemed to be directed at me.

God spoke to me saying that I should be silent toward him, but love him without words. Basically, I feel God is telling me “Don’t ask him why he is doing this, you already know. Don’t tell him how bad he is hurting you, he already sees it. Don’t politely offer to read the Bible with him, he doesn’t want to do that, and he interprets it as nagging.” God has told me to love him unconditionally, pray for him continually, refuse to participate in his sin, but let him be accountable to HIM for his sin, not to me.

This is easier said then done. I always thought I was a sweet, encouraging wife. I never, ever thought of myself as a nag. I have never noticed that I may have been doing this until I began to catch myself “not being silent.” For instance, My husband and I are trying to leave town as I am typing this. We have to get to the airport. He was changing the oil in the car this morning when he stormed in screaming and yelling that he couldn’t find the oil filter because the garage is such a mess.

Now, he has taken 2 weeks off of work to catch up on some things and to take a break from stress, yet he has spent those 2 weeks fishing every day. So now, he is in a bind and he is stressed out because of his own problems. I so badly wanted to say very kindly “Well, sweetie, maybe you should have taken one day off from fishing so that you could get your garage straightened out.” To me, I would not have thought this as nagging before, just common sense. I was trying to help him.

Then God said to me “Do you think he doesn’t already know these things?” Wow! You know what, he does know. I am not the Holy Spirit, God is. If anyone can show him a better way it is the Lord.

Please continue to pray for me because this is actually wayyyy more difficult than I ever thought it would be.

“…so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives.” – 1 Peter 3:1

Lord, please give me a spiritual straitjacket when I want to react out of hurt of frustration. I pray that you would put your hand over my mouth, make me bite my tongue, whatever it takes. Father, when I get out of your way, you can do marvelous things! I ask you to help me this week to be more Christlike. Help me to set a godly example for other women. I pray all this in the name of Jesus Christ.
Amen.

My husband is doing well too. He is growing so much. The rehab that he is in is very Christ centered. Praise the Lord he will be getting to come home in about a month. Which is a huge relief because I am just having a really hard time. I am getting huge and have had a few complications, but praise the Lord. The baby is good and so am I. God really does provide. I have really learned about trusting lately. Well, I better get back to work too. I love ya gal and I’ll be keeping you in my prayers. Love, Lynne

I tell you it has done wonders for my marriage as my hubby and I grow in maturity, practicing what we were taught and what God expects from us. We’re still learning as we go along. I can see a lot of changes in my husband though, and all that is truly God coz I even began a prayer journal for my husband. All I need is to have a much stronger spiritual relationship with him. I’m praying for that so please keep us in your prayers. Actually, he did mention that he feels/thinks like he’s gonna be in ministry so I’m really praying for God’s guidance and direction. I’ve missed you lots.

How’s the baby and how is your husband doing? Keep me informed. In my prayers gal. Love you all.

Lynne, I’m glad that you’re doing well. It’s understandable how you might think that way, it’s fearful to trust your husband after all he’s done. On the other hand you need to remember that the enemy is gonna use that and lie to you and he’s lying to you now about your husband. The enemy’s joy is to see you fall and your marriage not succeeding and he’s not happy that your husband is doing better.

I’m reading a book by Sharon Jaynes called “Lies Women Tell Themselves.” It’s about the lies that the enemy whispers to us, and unfortunately, we believe. She has a suggestion that sounded odd and that’s the idea. I decided to share so that you can replace the devil’s lie with truth. When you think your husband is gonna go back to his old ways, add in Jesus name to the end of that sentence and you’ll know that’s the devil trying to weigh you down because the truth is, Jesus wants you to lean on Him and believe your husband is gonna be fine because his trust is in God.

Try it and you’ll see how wrong it sounds to add Jesus’ name at the end of a negative statement and after that think of a scripture or pray. John 10:10 says, “The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life and have it to the full.” Remember God’s truth when the enemy comes to destroy. You’re both in my prayers. Shella, hope this helps you too. Take care ladies – God is with you – this is not impossible to God. You just have to see what God is teaching you in the process. Love you all.

Things with me have been good. I went to church with my husband on Sunday. He invited me to the church that the rehab takes them to, and they allowed him to sit with me. It was really nice to sit with him and hold his hand while hearing a great message about the Lord. I was sad when it was over but I was glad I got to go. My husband really seems to be doing well, and finding the Lord again. I praise God for that because only He could make that happen.

My only fear is that this change won’t last. I just keep waiting for my husband to turn back into his normal mean self. I realize now that I am not trusting God. It is true that I don’t have any faith left in my husband right now, but I am not trusting God as I should to restore that. Please pray for me that I can stay aware of my trust issues and whom they are really towards. I love ya all. Hope every one is having an awesome day.

How is everyone? Has anyone heard from LT? I really pray she is doing well. I pray that all of my girls from the mission are doing well. Love, Lynne

Thank you Anne for all the inspiration that you have given me. I have been praying for your needs.

Thank you Lynne – I agree that dwelling on one’s own pain only make things worse. Lately I have experienced it, and if I keep thinking how sad things are with me, they just get sadder. But if we disregard all that and keep a positive attitude and fill our hearts with hope & faith, things suddenly begin to look up. Take care & thank you once again. Love to all.

Anyway, I checked it out and I listened to his sermon for this past Sunday and oh boy, didn’t God speak to me! It was about how God remembers us all the time. http://www.lightsource.com/ministry/joel_osteen_ministries. I just wanted to tell anyone who feels God has forgotten them (which we all do at one point) to please listen to his message. God has our lives in the palms of His hands and at the right time He shall give us what we desire.

I hope this helps someone out there. I also wanted to share a verse with you. ZEPHANIAH 3:17 The Lord Your God is with you, He is Mighty to Save, He will take great delight in you, He will quiet you with His love, He will rejoice over you with singing. God bless you all. Love ya. Lynn, how you doing gal?

Lynne, I’m glad you’re up on your feet again. Falling always happens and that’s when we need to hold on to God with everything we’ve got. The enemy is always trying to make people give up but gal be strong and know that God has a really wonderful plan for you and your spouse. You’re in my prayers you can read Lamentations 3:22-25. God is a God of hope and He has all our lives in the palms of His hands waiting to bless us if we can only trust in Him.

I wanted to thank you and everyone who’s prayed for me and my husband. I’ve been praying a lot and reading the Bible and I continue to seek Him. We’ve been struggling with our finances for a while and I had mentioned earlier that it was really tough. God is faithful because I have seen such a huge change in my husband who has finally gotten to be wise about money (he never really cared what he used or how he used it) and that used to stress me a lot and we argued a lot. To avoid arguing I used to keep quiet about it.

I’ve prayed a lot and I finally see the hand of God in my husband. God has been giving him a lot of wisdom and this week he’s the one who actually told me we are to keep on the budget and make sure we take out the tithe before everything else. My husband has never had an issue with tithing. We just needed to obey and do the 10%. God is faithful because now that’s what we’re doing and we are FINALLY on the same page financially. I’ve prayed for this for so long.

My husband is now guiding his cousin who’s 20 yrs old and who’s making the same mistakes that my husband made. I’m so happy to see that. The best part is that he’s giving God all the glory which is amazing. We’re saving to buy a house so keep us in your prayers. God is helping both of us be wise and be content with what we have. We were able to get a loan to pay off our debt and paid them off yesterday and now all we’re paying for is the loan. Through God’s grace we will finish that off earlier than the allocated time. Keep us in your prayers coz everything happens in God’s timing.

God had closed a door last year for a loan we had applied for. I am glad coz we were not ready for that responsibility and now He’s given us that maturity and wisdom. I just wanted to share that testimony and say God is able. Nothing is too big for Him. He is mighty to save and all those who are in pain and hurting, God shares with you the pain. He’s waiting for all of you with open arms to comfort you. He’ll teach us and discipline us through our pain. God gives us more than we ask for. Ephesians 3:20. Thank you all and my prayers are with you. Lynne, hope you’re better now. Love you gal. God bless you all.

Then my favorite verse lately is John 16:33 "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take Heart! I have overcome this world." That verse always makes me feel ten feet tall and bulletproof. What ever trials we face (even an arrogant husband) it’s no match for our GOD. HE is more mighty than we could ever imagine and HE’s on our side so nothing can defeat us!!!

My verses I claim as my own are Jeremiah 29:11-12 "I say this because I know what I am planning for you," says the LORD. "I have good plans for you, not plans to hurt you. I will give you hope and a good future. Then you will call my name. You will come to me and pray to me, and I will listen to you."

If God is telling you to do something then do it, and if you are suffering don’t lose faith God has good plans for you. The devil feeds you a lie and tells you that things will never get any better, and he puts up a blind so that you can’t see past your current pain. Don’t fall for it. Trust in what God has said and that is that He is planning a good future for you and that you can draw your hope from HIM. Trust GOD, and pray about what you should do and say. I love you girl and I will keep praying for you.

Anne, I am doing well thank you. I was really bad off there for a little while and was falling for some dirty tricks and lies, but the Lord has saved me from that. I was just really dwelling on my own pain again, and I was getting really angry at my situation, But I remember God’s Promise and I am not hurting anymore. How are you doing? I love you to girl and I will keep praying for you.

Ladies, How is everyone else doing? Love Ya, LYNNE

I don’t have much hope to give when I am at such a stage in my life when I feel very dejected by life and God. I often wonder why God is making me go through all this. I just wish he would appear out of somewhere and make me rest my head on his chest and tell me what he wants me to do, and reassure me. May God take care of all of you. Love to all.

But you know what? This man continues to criticize me. This morning he told me that I am losing my sanity because of this child issue. However much I wanted to tell him that it’s not the case, and that it’s ok for me not to have a baby and I am waiting for God’s time. If I say this, he will start shouting at me saying that’s the problem with me, that I don’t realize my mistakes & if he tells them to me, I get arrogant and don’t agree with him. What am I to do? I can’t tell you ladies how helpless and sad I feel at such times. When this man, who I love so much, is not even willing to listen to what I have to say, let alone try and understand me…

He thinks that whatever he perceives, whatever he says is right – and only that is right. Nothing else is right. Whatever others think – especially me – has always got to be wrong. If I at any point try to put my point across to him, or show him the way, he will get immensely mad at me and start calling me & my family names.

I really think I will loose my sanity if things don’t get better. He is also verbally abusive with his staff at work, and it is really embarrassing for me to walk into his office. I really wish he would heal and he could be such a nice man, so caring and so full of love.

Thank you for keeping me in your prayers. I really look forward to your words of advice time and again. It really keeps me going. Thank you and keep writing in. I think I can always pour out my heart here.

You mentioned that you have some issues and whatever they are i definitely don’t think they constitute getting abused. This is time for you to be close to God, draw near to Him. He can see your pain and feel it too. Ask Him to change you and start healing you that’s the only way to go. This is not big for God. Through your pain, He shall teach you so many wonderful things and He shall heal all your wounds and give a forgiving heart. Pray for patience and wisdom. PUSH in prayer and don’t give up. As God works on you, pray for your husband fervently and don’t stop. God can and will change Him if you believe it. I can imagine that it’s not easy.

About having a child, not now, and like Lynne said. I think God can see that. I grew up in a home where my father was abusive and it messed me up so please put the child plans on hold. Wait for God’s timing. I wish you well and I hope you have someone to talk to and pray with. Immerse yourself in the word and use that to give you peace.

I like this verse: JOB 22:21-22: "Submit to God and be at peace with Him, in this way Prosperity will come to you. Accept instruction from His mouth and lay up His words in your heart." and JOB 22:27-28 "You will pray to Him,and He will hear you and you will fulfill your vows and light will shine on your ways." Only God can set you free. God’s blessings.

Lynne how you doing gal? Still in my prayers. Loads of love.

Rachel, if you are in a situation that is unsafe please get safe before trying to work on your marriage. You are trying to get pregnant right now and I beg you to reconsider or think about why God has not answered that prayer. Do you really think it wise to bring a child into an abusive situation? I will be praying so hard for you. You talk about yourself as if you have been beaten down over the years. You need to love yourself as God loves you. You are beautiful, and perfect because you were made in HIS image.

Honey, please get safe. If you are in fear for your life you need to find refuge. You have to safe your own life before you can try (though Jesus) to save your marriage. I think maybe LT would be an awesome person to give you some advice on this. She’s an awesome person. LT, if you’re out there please post back to Rachel? I love you girl and I will be praying for you. Love, Lynne

As noted in all the mails above from the wonderful sister, we have to put God first in whatever we do and get rid of fear and anxiety in our lives. I have come to believe that most cases as married women we tend to imagine things happening to us and indeed in no time these bad things happen. Most of these are heard from our friends, experiences and we fail to detach ourselves from them. Remember whenever any negative thoughts come into our minds, the devil is always listening and he gets hold of that negative thought and throws it back to us as a reality. Our only weapon should be prayer whenever such unpleasant thoughts come into our minds, we need to get down to our knees and cast out that evil spirit of whatever thing we have thought about.

We should also keep reflecting on the story of Job and the circumstances under which he came to be tempted. Sometimes because of our prayerfulness and trust in the Lord, satan asks the Lord to put us to a test to prove to God that we are just pretending,. So God will allow satan to tempt us and in most cases we shall be tempted using our most beloved friends (husbands or children) because with these, satan knows we shall give up on God easily.

So what the Lord says is that, there you are, tempt her and see whether she will denounce me and walk your satanic ways. Now this is where our perseverance comes in when it comes to pray, trust and faithfulness in the Lord. We have to stand to win the battle. Our worry shouldn’t be when to win but how to win the battle. In this way we shall be taking on our responsibility while casting the care to God. Lets continue to lift up each other in prayer. Love you all.

I have been married 8 years and my marriage has been really, really tough. I married a Hindu. At that time when I married him I was not close to God and didn’t realize that marrying out of religion is something God would not be pleased with.

My husband has a terrible anger, he is unpredictable, very perfect about his things, and once he loses his rage he is uncontrollable and has at times beat me very badly. He is both physically and verbally abusive. But at the same time he is very loving, very caring, provides me with everything, never questions me, is very supportive. When things are fine between us (which is for a very, very limited time) people who look at us feel that we both are very much in love & think we are the ideal couple.

Our physical relation is very, very poor to say the least. He blames me for everything bad that happens, or anything that he is unable to do. I am honestly-speaking very scared of his wrath, and in that fear I am unable to do anything well in front of him. I get panicky.

He is very aggressive and he keeps telling me that I should never try to dominate him or raise my voice against him, or argue. But at some point of times, when I really feel he is awfully wrong I just cant help but try and put my point across to him. Which is very often. At such times, his rage flies off the window and the whole apartment knows that he is angry. Things really get very sad at such times. He will go to any extent to humiliate me and convince me that he is the boss. But such a long time has passed, I am somehow still not been able to convince myself to swallow my pride and lower my head and stand and take that bit of bashing. I feel it’s a loss to my self respect and over the years, I have really lost all respect and feel very much below dignity. He has time and again insulted me in the work place, at home on the road, anywhere and everywhere.

Its been a regular routine at our home, and the days when we have an argument during the mornings he abuses me and then does not go to work and says that I am responsible for pulling him down in his career!!! Another thing about him is that however much I apologize, or try to patch up he will never ever give up. He will waste a week or maybe even a month, but he will just not make things all right.

For the last 2 years, his mother is staying with us since his father passed away. Day before yesterday, she too teamed up with him and started saying things like I am the one responsible for breaking the peace of the house, and I am the one responsible for deterioration of her son’s health. It really broke my heart to see both of them standing against me. I was more hurt by the way my husband allowed my mother in law to speak against me. He has always been supportive of me in this area.

Another area of concern is that we have not been able to have a baby. I have tried everything, and there is no serious problem with either me or him but I haven’t been able to conceive till date. That is also a lot of pressure on both of us, and we sometimes feel dejected seeing others much younger than ourselves having children.

I know I have my shortcomings. I’m not half as perfect as him. I have a habit of procrastination. I sometimes do things half-heartedly, I am not the perfect, humble, meek wife.

I feel that God wants to use me to change this man & melt his heart. I sometimes feel that he would like to use me as an example of his own image through me. But I am unable to fulfill God’s desires of me. I am not strong. I cry very easily. I get hurt very easily. I am unable to forgive quickly, I carry hurt for too long in my heart. I am assertive about certain things and get humiliated & want to take revenge. I don’t want to give up on my ideals.

Today the situation is that we both carry a lot of hurt against each other. He thinks I am no good for him, and vice versa. He feels I have never done anything for him and vice versa. He doesn’t want to live with me anymore and vice versa. He is very, very unforgiving and has a heart of stone. I have also become unforgiving towards him.

Please please ladies. I look forward to your advice. I don’t want to lose this marriage and I want that God should help me to be what he chose me to be. I really want you all to tell me what to do.

Lynne, I am so happy for you and your husband. God is truly faithful and He shall continue blessing you more and more as you lean on Him. My prayers are always with you.

Sue, I am glad things improved. The enemy will always be around. He’s like a roaring lion waiting to attack, so keep on praying and reading the word and God will see you through. It takes a lot of patience to wait on the Lord but the pay off is something so amazing.

Mangwane, I hope you’re well. Well that’s it. I wanted to share a website that I found that may be good to check out. http://www.proverbs31.org. Take care gals God be with you all. Loads of love.

With hubby: the last 2 weeks have been WONDERFUL, through HIS grace and HIS blessings. But, as soon as MY trust and FAITH waivers, then things happen and I feel that the devil then gets a hold of our marriage. Does that make sense at all? God is good and does bless me each and EVERY day, yet some days when I feel down, it feels as if the devil gets the advantage. I saw SO many changes in my hubby the last 2 weeks, and then it’s as if the devil just has to put his foot in the door, to remind me that he is still there. But I know that the GOD I SERVICE is a powerful and mighty GOD, and NOTHING is impossible for HIM. Praise HIM for HIS amazing love, peace and grace.