Comments on: The Warning Signs of Infidelity http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/ a Christian Marriage Website Mon, 22 Mar 2010 14:03:16 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Lyn http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/comment-page-1/#comment-6305 Lyn Thu, 04 Feb 2010 13:45:09 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/#comment-6305 (KENYA)  Hi Shamiso, I am so sorry for what you are going through, it's very sad. As a Christian, I'd like to urge you to turn to God, pray for your husband and for your family and for yourself for God to give you peace and restraint. It's obvious from all you have seen and heard that he is having an affair and truthfully, you should not have any beef with the other woman. It's your husband you need to deal with. So don't call or contact her anymore. There's no need going through his phone because you already know what is going on and you will get hurt more and more. So just deal with the situation. Such husbands never go anywhere and besides, this woman is married so really, they won't last. But pray for him to realise that what he is doing is wrong. Avoid confrontations; it won't solve a thing, will just make him grow madder and madder, as in you will be giving him an opportunity to say he can't stay in the house because you are nagging bla bla bla. Instead pray for peace within you and for God to show you a clear way of dealing with this situation. Be happy, be yourself, be good, be a Christian and win him over with your actions as a Christian. You need to pray very hard to achieve that kind of peace within you and you have to stay positive and focused. It's not all about him. He's not the end of the world. As much as you need him, there are better things to do with yourself. I don't think your fighting him every night and reading his messages will help you sort out anything. Don't put yourself through that. Kind of give him space as you pray for him, to go through what he is going through, and he will be himself in no time. (KENYA)  Hi Shamiso, I am so sorry for what you are going through, it’s very sad. As a Christian, I’d like to urge you to turn to God, pray for your husband and for your family and for yourself for God to give you peace and restraint. It’s obvious from all you have seen and heard that he is having an affair and truthfully, you should not have any beef with the other woman. It’s your husband you need to deal with. So don’t call or contact her anymore. There’s no need going through his phone because you already know what is going on and you will get hurt more and more. So just deal with the situation.

Such husbands never go anywhere and besides, this woman is married so really, they won’t last. But pray for him to realise that what he is doing is wrong. Avoid confrontations; it won’t solve a thing, will just make him grow madder and madder, as in you will be giving him an opportunity to say he can’t stay in the house because you are nagging bla bla bla.

Instead pray for peace within you and for God to show you a clear way of dealing with this situation. Be happy, be yourself, be good, be a Christian and win him over with your actions as a Christian. You need to pray very hard to achieve that kind of peace within you and you have to stay positive and focused. It’s not all about him. He’s not the end of the world. As much as you need him, there are better things to do with yourself. I don’t think your fighting him every night and reading his messages will help you sort out anything. Don’t put yourself through that. Kind of give him space as you pray for him, to go through what he is going through, and he will be himself in no time.

]]> By: Shamiso http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/comment-page-1/#comment-6297 Shamiso Wed, 03 Feb 2010 14:54:30 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/#comment-6297 (ZIMBABWE)  My husband got a job in Maseru and went to work there and find accommodations before we joined him. He was there for about 5 months as he kept postponing our going there. When we finally went my first suspicion that he was seeing someone was a pair of ladies earing in our bedroom of which I asked him and he said he didn't know where they came from. For about another month I didn't notice anything as he used to go out with friends after work every Friday. But he started going out more often and I could almost tell that if he came home early on Monday, Tuesday he would go out Wednesday early and Thursday, Friday and sometimes Saturday or Sunday. One day when he came home around 12 midnight I stole his mobile phone and started going thru dialed numbers. I noticed a contact written UNISA which stands for University of South Africa but he had called the number around 11pm. I saved the number on my phone and called it with a hidden ID and a woman answered. I didn't not ask the next day; he wasn't settled and looked for an excuse to go out. On another day I stole his phone at night and saw in the in box a message from same woman written 'I can't answer the phone right now; I am with my husband' That's when I asked him and he started lying; he didn't know the woman blablabla. I was so mad and told him I wanted to go back to Zim for separation. Then he sent me an email about research which said a man had mistresses because their wives became boring but they wouldn't divorce their wives. He now started playing golf where he comes home very late as he says after golf they go and drink beer with friends. One day I sent a message using his phone to the mistress saying 'I miss you and I am coming to screw you right now.' I wanted to findout if he was sleeping with her and she replied, call me. I deleted the message but when he spoke to the woman he came back home and slapped me many times on my face and said I was supposed to apologise to the woman which I refused to do. I have a red eye after the beating and a swollen face. I called the woman and she said to me it is my husband that was after her and I should not bother her. I just don't know what to do and am very depressed and can't sleep or eat. Don't know whether to consider divorce but I know it's very bad for the kids. I can't trust anything that comes out of his mouth. I have also noticed that it's more than 1 woman whom he calls some at night and if I ask him he will always says someone borrowed my phone; I don't know the woman. Please help am a Catholic Christian. (ZIMBABWE)  My husband got a job in Maseru and went to work there and find accommodations before we joined him. He was there for about 5 months as he kept postponing our going there. When we finally went my first suspicion that he was seeing someone was a pair of ladies earing in our bedroom of which I asked him and he said he didn’t know where they came from. For about another month I didn’t notice anything as he used to go out with friends after work every Friday. But he started going out more often and I could almost tell that if he came home early on Monday, Tuesday he would go out Wednesday early and Thursday, Friday and sometimes Saturday or Sunday. One day when he came home around 12 midnight I stole his mobile phone and started going thru dialed numbers. I noticed a contact written UNISA which stands for University of South Africa but he had called the number around 11pm. I saved the number on my phone and called it with a hidden ID and a woman answered. I didn’t not ask the next day; he wasn’t settled and looked for an excuse to go out.

On another day I stole his phone at night and saw in the in box a message from same woman written ‘I can’t answer the phone right now; I am with my husband’ That’s when I asked him and he started lying; he didn’t know the woman blablabla. I was so mad and told him I wanted to go back to Zim for separation. Then he sent me an email about research which said a man had mistresses because their wives became boring but they wouldn’t divorce their wives.

He now started playing golf where he comes home very late as he says after golf they go and drink beer with friends. One day I sent a message using his phone to the mistress saying ‘I miss you and I am coming to screw you right now.’ I wanted to findout if he was sleeping with her and she replied, call me. I deleted the message but when he spoke to the woman he came back home and slapped me many times on my face and said I was supposed to apologise to the woman which I refused to do. I have a red eye after the beating and a swollen face. I called the woman and she said to me it is my husband that was after her and I should not bother her.

I just don’t know what to do and am very depressed and can’t sleep or eat. Don’t know whether to consider divorce but I know it’s very bad for the kids. I can’t trust anything that comes out of his mouth. I have also noticed that it’s more than 1 woman whom he calls some at night and if I ask him he will always says someone borrowed my phone; I don’t know the woman.

Please help am a Catholic Christian.

]]> By: Faruk http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/comment-page-1/#comment-5120 Faruk Fri, 09 Oct 2009 16:18:16 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/#comment-5120 (NIGERIA) Well, there is a need to figure out and discuss things where neccessary under a condusive atmosphere and not in passive circumstances. If you are afraid, please pray for him and hand him over to the Holy Spirit to take away his peace until he confesses his action. God answer prayers! (NIGERIA) Well, there is a need to figure out and discuss things where neccessary under a condusive atmosphere and not in passive circumstances. If you are afraid, please pray for him and hand him over to the Holy Spirit to take away his peace until he confesses his action. God answer prayers!

]]> By: PERIS http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/comment-page-1/#comment-358 PERIS Fri, 25 Jan 2008 13:40:46 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/#comment-358 (UGANDA) I think you should talk to him and present your fears. In the same way you are protecting his ego, you need to put yourself first. Even the bible says "love your neighbour as you love yourself" meaning you cant love your neighbour if you don't love yourself. Also, Jesus says, "my people perish because of lack of knowledge" meaning you need to be in the know, then make a decision based on that info. (UGANDA) I think you should talk to him and present your fears. In the same way you are protecting his ego, you need to put yourself first. Even the bible says "love your neighbour as you love yourself" meaning you cant love your neighbour if you don’t love yourself. Also, Jesus says, "my people perish because of lack of knowledge" meaning you need to be in the know, then make a decision based on that info.

]]> By: Shuang http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/comment-page-1/#comment-354 Shuang Fri, 25 Jan 2008 09:08:15 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/#comment-354 (SINGAPORE)  Our family has been in an extremely complicated problem, seemingly with no way out. My husband has been terribly depressed for the last two to three years. I know he has been engaged in internet chatting with a female colleague who works in a different office, a person who is known by co-workers as a big flirt. This week, my husband took advantage of a business trip and took a detour and spent two night in a hotel in the city she is in. I have not confronted my husband about this whole incident because I don't feel it would be productive under the dire situation our family is in. But it's a torture to me to want to know whether he and the woman were engaged in sexual relationship in the those two days. My husband's brother saw him right after his encounter with the woman, and he reported to me that my husband appeared to be very sullen and not at all happy, as a person who had some thrill should behave. I would like to find out from you what is the typical behavior of a person who has been engaged in extramarital sex? (SINGAPORE)  Our family has been in an extremely complicated problem, seemingly with no way out. My husband has been terribly depressed for the last two to three years. I know he has been engaged in internet chatting with a female colleague who works in a different office, a person who is known by co-workers as a big flirt. This week, my husband took advantage of a business trip and took a detour and spent two night in a hotel in the city she is in. I have not confronted my husband about this whole incident because I don’t feel it would be productive under the dire situation our family is in. But it’s a torture to me to want to know whether he and the woman were engaged in sexual relationship in the those two days. My husband’s brother saw him right after his encounter with the woman, and he reported to me that my husband appeared to be very sullen and not at all happy, as a person who had some thrill should behave. I would like to find out from you what is the typical behavior of a person who has been engaged in extramarital sex?

]]> By: Patrick http://www.marriagemissions.com/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/comment-page-1/#comment-175 Patrick Wed, 07 Nov 2007 16:03:35 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/the-warning-signs-of-infidelity/#comment-175 (KENYA) Inspirational articles. Keep up (KENYA) Inspirational articles. Keep up

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