Comments on: UNEQUALLY YOKED: Differences Don’t Have to Devastate http://www.marriagemissions.com/unequally-yoked-differences-dont-have-to-be-devastating/ a Christian Marriage Website Mon, 15 Mar 2010 08:33:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Cindy Wright http://www.marriagemissions.com/unequally-yoked-differences-dont-have-to-be-devastating/comment-page-1/#comment-5710 Cindy Wright Tue, 15 Dec 2009 13:32:01 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/unequally-yoked-differences-dont-have-to-be-devastating/#comment-5710 (USA) Hi Suzy. I have no doubt that it has to be extremely difficult to live with a man who does not know or live out the love of Christ. There is a void in his heart of knowing how to love you as Christ loves you, that you would be continually experiencing. My heart goes out to you. I'm sure no one can understand completely (except God) unless they are also married to an unbeliever. I don't claim to understand, but please know that I care. Yet as difficult as it would be to be married to an unbeliever, I am sure it would be worse to live like one. And from what you wrote, it appears that you are doing this. You are living with and living like an unbeliever if you don't embrace and live your life as God has ordained that you do. I want to encourage you to return to, and to no longer "leave your first love" -- the one who SHOULD be your first love... Jesus Christ. God warns His church NOT to leave. He says in Revelation 2:4-5, "Yet I hold this against you. You have forsaken your first love. Remember the height from which you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first." That same warning is for any of us who fall away from living Christ. He longs for you to come back and stop allowing any person or spirit to rob you of your faith and the hope you can have in Jesus Christ. The enemy of our faith works through human beings and in other ways by putting false ideas and thoughts in our minds so we will grab hold of that which is wrong. If we give in and go the opposite way of Christ, we are allowing ourselves to be deceived by a liar (see: John 10:10), a stealer and robber (see John 8:44) -- to fall into being devoured (see: 1 Peter 5:8-9). Suzi, I encourage you and pray for you to reach out to God, through Jesus Christ once again, and pour out your heart to Him. Ask Him how you can live with a husband who doesn't know you and yet live in harmony in your heart with Him. Please read 1 Peter 3:8-22 and ask God to show you how to live it. I also encourage you to read through the New Testament of the Bible and see how God will instruct you (with new eyes) as you ask Him to do so. I believe with all my heart that you will find a peace in the midst of turmoil and that you will find renewed hope and strength to live as you should -- as God has called you. Yes, God hates divorce, but even more so, He grieves those who turn from Him and live as if He isn't their God and Lord of their lives. I pray you will take what I've written to heart. God can transform you and your life from the inside out if you allow Him to... He may not take away your troubles, but He will show you how to walk through them and will guide you along the way. May God bless you as you reach out to Him. (USA) Hi Suzy. I have no doubt that it has to be extremely difficult to live with a man who does not know or live out the love of Christ. There is a void in his heart of knowing how to love you as Christ loves you, that you would be continually experiencing. My heart goes out to you. I’m sure no one can understand completely (except God) unless they are also married to an unbeliever. I don’t claim to understand, but please know that I care.

Yet as difficult as it would be to be married to an unbeliever, I am sure it would be worse to live like one. And from what you wrote, it appears that you are doing this. You are living with and living like an unbeliever if you don’t embrace and live your life as God has ordained that you do.

I want to encourage you to return to, and to no longer “leave your first love” — the one who SHOULD be your first love… Jesus Christ. God warns His church NOT to leave. He says in Revelation 2:4-5, “Yet I hold this against you. You have forsaken your first love. Remember the height from which you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first.” That same warning is for any of us who fall away from living Christ. He longs for you to come back and stop allowing any person or spirit to rob you of your faith and the hope you can have in Jesus Christ.

The enemy of our faith works through human beings and in other ways by putting false ideas and thoughts in our minds so we will grab hold of that which is wrong. If we give in and go the opposite way of Christ, we are allowing ourselves to be deceived by a liar (see: John 10:10), a stealer and robber (see John 8:44) — to fall into being devoured (see: 1 Peter 5:8-9).

Suzi, I encourage you and pray for you to reach out to God, through Jesus Christ once again, and pour out your heart to Him. Ask Him how you can live with a husband who doesn’t know you and yet live in harmony in your heart with Him. Please read 1 Peter 3:8-22 and ask God to show you how to live it.

I also encourage you to read through the New Testament of the Bible and see how God will instruct you (with new eyes) as you ask Him to do so. I believe with all my heart that you will find a peace in the midst of turmoil and that you will find renewed hope and strength to live as you should — as God has called you.

Yes, God hates divorce, but even more so, He grieves those who turn from Him and live as if He isn’t their God and Lord of their lives. I pray you will take what I’ve written to heart. God can transform you and your life from the inside out if you allow Him to… He may not take away your troubles, but He will show you how to walk through them and will guide you along the way. May God bless you as you reach out to Him.

]]> By: Suzi http://www.marriagemissions.com/unequally-yoked-differences-dont-have-to-be-devastating/comment-page-1/#comment-5708 Suzi Tue, 15 Dec 2009 11:37:10 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/unequally-yoked-differences-dont-have-to-be-devastating/#comment-5708 (SOUTH AFRICA)  I am married with a non Christian man and I am a Christian. It seems like now we are water and oil. We are always fighting and don't agree on anything. Now I am no longer active in the work of GOD and the love is no longer there. The Bible says God hates divorce. Please help. What must I do? (SOUTH AFRICA)  I am married with a non Christian man and I am a Christian. It seems like now we are water and oil. We are always fighting and don’t agree on anything. Now I am no longer active in the work of GOD and the love is no longer there. The Bible says God hates divorce. Please help. What must I do?

]]> By: Lo http://www.marriagemissions.com/unequally-yoked-differences-dont-have-to-be-devastating/comment-page-1/#comment-5697 Lo Mon, 14 Dec 2009 15:34:13 +0000 http://www.marriagemissions.net/unequally-yoked-differences-dont-have-to-be-devastating/#comment-5697 (USA)  Hi, With regards to social activities and choice of friends, I believe a godly wife can/should choose not to go to worldly events. I don't agree with the section in the above article where it says, I quote: (But, if he wants her to go to an office party, where everyone will be drinking and using foul language—that is not sin. Connie said, “Look, I have the Holy Spirit within me and my body in His temple, so I just take my altar and go with Brock.”) One might be able to handle themselves in such circumstances but for how long? Can a Christian go to watch pornography with sinners so that they can be witnessed to? Aren't there better opportunities to do that? Bad associations corrupt good character. Consider the following verses: 1 Corinthians 15:33 Proverbs 14:7 Proverbs 13:20 Proverbs 6:27-28 ... and plenty others. There are better opportunities for us to minister to people rather than putting ourselves in situations where we may eventually give in and participate in wrong things. Ephesians 6:10-11 I believe the devil is not after the ungodly for they are deceived already but he is looking for opportunities to turn the godly by pretending to be an "angel of light". So please don't be caught unaware. (USA)  Hi, With regards to social activities and choice of friends, I believe a godly wife can/should choose not to go to worldly events. I don’t agree with the section in the above article where it says, I quote: (But, if he wants her to go to an office party, where everyone will be drinking and using foul language—that is not sin. Connie said, “Look, I have the Holy Spirit within me and my body in His temple, so I just take my altar and go with Brock.”)

One might be able to handle themselves in such circumstances but for how long? Can a Christian go to watch pornography with sinners so that they can be witnessed to? Aren’t there better opportunities to do that? Bad associations corrupt good character. Consider the following verses:
1 Corinthians 15:33
Proverbs 14:7
Proverbs 13:20
Proverbs 6:27-28
… and plenty others.

There are better opportunities for us to minister to people rather than putting ourselves in situations where we may eventually give in and participate in wrong things. Ephesians 6:10-11 I believe the devil is not after the ungodly for they are deceived already but he is looking for opportunities to turn the godly by pretending to be an “angel of light”. So please don’t be caught unaware.

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