I am supposed to be okay with this because I am prettier than anyone else. He may only work at the club a couple times a month so to focus on that would be unfair. But since I have known him, it took me 6 years to break him of the habit of grabbing my crotch and breasts in public. He thinks it is normal, I think he is trying to degrade me. He wants to french kiss in public and gets mad when I won’t. I don’t want my intimacy displayed to the world, he thinks I am a prude. I have to have sex with him every day, whether I want to or not. I have been faking it for years. We have a ton of problems in the marriage but if I had to pick one thing that has caused most of my resentment – it is the way he has treated me like an object and then tells me I am crazy for feeling that way.

This morning, after we had begun, he started to get nasty with me (rude) because I wasn’t into it. For the first time in 9 years I just said "that’s it. no more" and got up. He was very angry and I don’t care. I am not going to be talked to like that right in the middle of it! I really don’t want to be with him anymore. I love and care about him as a person but I just think he doesn’t see me as a human being at all.

Now, I don’t even want him to touch me. He keeps trying to connect with sex and I don’t want him to touch me. He is also very selfish, never does what I ask for. I haven’t gotten what I want sexually in years. And he throws my stupid past in my face when he wants to save his. I say #1 – you knew about this so why did you marry me? #2 – God forgave me for this so I am NOT answering to you about it. And I walk away.

So here is my point and you don’t even have to post this message.
You can’t just assume this woman is not having sex with her husband enough. There is so much more to it than that whether you married a believer or not.
You may be uncomfortable having the discussion but that woman sounded
trapped and desperate in her life. Do you know what it is like to fight for privacy and peace every single day? And then feel guilty because society says we are supposed to "take care" of our man? I have enjoyed a lot from this website. This page is not one that I have enjoyed.

I am very grateful that although I still haven’t figured out God’s position on this – you guys are wrong. I know in my heart that you guys are wrong. You should probably apologize to that poor girl.

When we do have sex, it is short and always exactly the same position. No talking, etc…I am not willing to open myself up to someone who has for years, belittled me, criticized me and attacked me in many ways. I am working very hard trying to increase my faith and working on my marriage, but we are 8 months later, still separated, and I am not too sure God wants us together.