My only comment is this; did any of you even read the article? Why are putting your thoughts and opinions on this page? No recommendations were made as to what was right, except to give biblical guidelines for discernment. Discuss it with your spouse and seek God (or don’t, if you can’t deal with it). Whatever decision you make is between you, your spouse and the Lord. Your beliefs or opinions on the morality of these acts is in no way beneficial.

My God shall supply ALL my needs according to his riches in glory, by Christ Jesus. (This verse applies to sexual needs also.)

26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:

27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompense of their error which was meet.

28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;

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How does this say not to have oral sex???

Number one, in Lev it does say that semen is unclean and female discharge is also unclean. If it is unclean then that should not be near our mouths. Number 2 we like to misinterpret Roman 1:26-29. It is not just talking about homosexual behavior but it also said women and men exchange natural use for what is against nature. It is very easy to have anal and oral sex with the opposite sex and with the same sex. Both sexes have a mouth and anus. God made opposite organs for a reason. If heterosexuals can have oral sex then gays can too and it’s not wrong. There should never be a gray area in Christianity.

One more thing, oral sex is sex of lust and pure pleasure. It’s lust of the eyes, you having your partner satisfy you in a sacrificial way. It is also lust of the flesh. The only reason why we are arguing over this topic is because it feels good, but it’s not mutual pleasure. There are no sexual organs in your mouth. It is purely pleasure for the other person. John 2:16 says For all that is in the world the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes. Another scripture to read is James 1:14-15.

One last point, our bodies are holy and should be held in honor. Read I Thessalonians 4:3-8 and Galatians 5:16 and Galatians 5:24. We cannot fulfill our loved one’s lusts. God made every part of our body for a reason. There is a scripture that says food is for the stomach. Genitals are not made for our mouths. We have opposite genitals for a reason. Do not condemn homosexuals when you are doing the same thing.

So just because you can’t find it spelled out to you in the Bible doesn’t mean it’s not covered and therefore ok. I haven’t made up my mind yet on the matter, although I do lean in the direction that it is a sin. I think using those isolated scriptures in The Song of Solomon to support oral sex is lifting and stretching scriptures out of context. Whatsoever is not of faith is sin, so I’ll leave it alone. To me it would be a sin. I have no desire for it anyway.

Anal sex causes pain and therefore should be avoided. There is nothing pleasurable about pain. If your spouse enjoys oral sex then why would you not want to please him/her? Sex is intended for pleasure as well as procreation. The pleasure should be experienced by both parties.

Sex is NOT about getting. It is about giving pleasure to the one I love. Remember, "It is better to give than to receive." Concerning vibrators, if your spouse enjoys stimulation in that way and you are both comfortable with the act then I find nothing in Scripture which prevents it. The key to any sexual act is that both parties are in agreement. If your spouse doesn’t like something then don’t do it. It’s as simple as that.

I think the big problem lies in the fact that the Church has been silent far too long on the subject of sex. Let’s face it. Most, if not all, of us learned about sex from the same place, the world. As youths, we learn about sex from the locker room, from pornography, or from our peers (which are as clueless as we are). It is past time for the church to step up and teach from God’s word what true sex is all about. God created it and said that it was good for a man and his wife only. Isn’t it time we teach this to our young people before the enemy twists things around further than he has already?

By the time a child reaches their teens they have already been taught by the world that it is OK for a woman to undress in front of a man that is not her husband. That’s just for starters. If you don’t believe me, just take a look at the number of pregnant teenagers in High School.

We have to act, and we have to act now. These things may be difficult to talk about with your children but if you don’t then guess who will. If you really want to pass your morals and God’s standards on to your children then, as uncomfortable as it may be, you simply must talk to them.

The way I view oral sex inside the marriage is more like rendering the affections due my husbands body.*

I would hope that none would prohibit the kissing of the spouse’s body, or not let the husband kiss the mammories –after all they were made to feed babies!

My Husband’s body is also my body.** There is nothing gross about any part of it (except for perhaps his feet, but I hear that other people love feet and include them in their loving practices/tradition/interactions—No foot massages for us-yuck). (Before anyone may says well, what about the anus, I believe that falls under unhygienic. But some may say different, and they can say it, but I am saying it can cause exposure to E-coli and such.)

If it is supposed to be that God forbids the kissing of the genitals in marriage, does he also forbid manual stimulation in marriage?

These are just my thoughts. I am in no way an authority. (HE is!) If you don’t like oral sex, that is your preference, but I believe it is just another gift in marital sex.

*1 Corinthians 7:3 “Let the husband render to his wife the affection due her, and likewise also the wife to her husband.”

**1 Corinthians 7:4 “The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.”

As in all things, pray and seek God’s wisdom. If one can’t hear Him, one should consider fasting for the answer.

The Lord did not design our mouths to be placed in places where our body wastes come out. Homosexuals did not believe in God. Regarding vibrators, well let me see, why couldn’t God allow our hands to vibrate? Inserting and allowing forms of instruments is idolatry. Lust is the right word. It is not love. Only God can really convict a person, but it is no different than a man and a wife doing it than homosexuals doing it. The separation that makes a child of God different is that we choose not to practice such things and are not ashamed to talk about. I will not do such things. Many things feel good but it doesn’t mean they are right, you know what I mean? char