If it wasn’t for my deep faith that God hates divorce I don’t think I could have made it as far as I have. We love each other but I find the constant separation, with no time to talk a constant source of insecurity to me. I wonder about other women. I feel so emotionally disconnected from my husband. I have tried several things, all to no avail. It doesn’t do any good to read a book if you are the only person in the relationship that has time to care or notice.

My advice to any couple serious about keeping their marriage strong would be to try desperately to avoid situations that take each other for long terms away from one another. I know God is faithful and can see us through tough times but that doesn’t negate the burden separation puts on a marriage. I always think of that verse from Genesis, “It is not good for man to be alone, i will make him a help mate.” Well what if she is not anywhere around?

Perhaps many women would not feel as insecure as I do but if you have had trust issues in the past or perhaps previous extra-martial problems I would definitely avoid this if possible. I’m sorry to sound so discouraging but I couldn’t help but think some of the articles weren’t a little too Pollyanna for me. Marriage is hard and separation makes it harder. To me it’s just that simple.

The only positive thing that came out is that we are glad to see each other. You become so set in your ways doing your own thing and it feels sometimes that we invading the other one’s privacy!