“Practical wisdom from mentors can help you learn to do the first-year tasks of marriage right the first time. Which would you rather do — keep making the first-year mistakes of marriage for ten years OR learn the first-year skills of marriage in year one and move forward with growing a successful marriage? 

…Why not seek out a mentor couple to share their love and experiences with you? They have helpful stories to share from lessons they have learned. They have road maps of experiences to help you with to find your way in dealing with communication, couple friendship and dating, finances, in-laws, solutions to problems, recreation, intimacy, and healthy marriage habits.” (Dr Ed Gray - www.12conversations.com)

Does that describe you? Are you experienced in what it takes to make a marriage healthy? If you are, newly married (or about to be married) young couples can use your help. Because:

“Great marriages are not the result of good luck, finding the perfect soul-mate, or waiting for just the right moment (although all of those things are helpful, they aren’t everything). A great marriage is made, not born. To achieve a great marriage, couples must go into it with a clear purpose and clear intentions.” (K. Jason Krafsky, from the book, “Before I Do”)

To have a great marriage, intentionality and building upon a firm foundation is important. Just like building a house, if couples don’t begin with a good start — building upon a firm foundation, they will make things more complicated and difficult in the future than it has to be.

And you may know that principle first-hand because perhaps you made your share of mistakes in the beginning and didn’t have anyone to help you make less of them. Perhaps you can change that for another couple and shorten or decrease their pain.

They will likely come into the marriage thinking they know how to love each other in such a way that their marriage will out-shine others, but as we know, it usually doesn’t take long before they find out differently and have difficulties. An older, more experienced couple that has “been there, and done that” can show them that it isn’t so unusual and not to be surprised by the problems they’re encountering.

But once they find themselves heading in the wrong direction it’s so much easier to correct the bad habits before they get too ingrained into the relationship and do too much damage, than it is to wait until later.

To explain further on how much your help is needed, we will provide below a link to the web site for the wonderful ministry of Family Life Today so you can read an article they have posted on this subject.

To read the article, please click onto the link below:

• YOUNG COUPLES NEED YOUR HELP

To read another article on this subject, posted on the web site for the great ministry of Focus on the Family, please click onto the link below:

• MARRIAGE MENTORING

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