How much we love our children! Once they come on the “scene” it’s difficult to imagine our lives without them. It’s also difficult not to center our lives around them. After-all, their demands or “needs” seem to cry out so much louder than ours.

But have you ever thought about what that does to their out-look in life if they appear to be the center of attention —the center of our universe?

And have you thought about what does it do to your marriage, when you keep shoving aside your needs and the needs of your marital “partner”? Is your spouse simply a partner in producing a child and/or a partner in parenting, or are they your partner in every aspect of your life?

Most of you didn’t start your marriage as parents, and someday (if both of you and your marriage is still alive) you’ll end up together —just the two of you.

Have you thought of that or planned for that?

We’ve seen so many marriages eventually crumble after the children leave home. It’s called “Empty-nest divorce.” And it’s becoming more and more common because we’re allowing our children to be the center of our lives together and when the children leave home the marriage dissolves because there wasn’t anything built to sustain it.

It’s the house built upon the rock concept where you need to build your house strong upon a solid base before the storms come (or the children leave home).

So, to help you with this mission, we’d like to refer you to an article published by Marriage Partnership Magazine. Please click below to read:

A CHILD-CENTERED LIFE

To read more on this subject, you will find below a web site link to an article that was written for HomeLife Magazine. Please click onto the link to read:

THE CHILD-DRIVEN MARRIAGE

Two other articles which are featured on the CrossWalk.com web site talk about the effects of what happens when a child enters into the marriage and the readjustments that are necessary to take place. Please click onto the links below to read:

KEEP YOUR MARRIAGE ALIVE WHILE CARING FOR A NEWBORN

TRICKLE-DOWN PARENTING: Your Marriage and Your Toddler

And then, to help you to re-connect, here is another article that can help you with that mission. It’s also featured on Cross Walk.com:

REDISCOVER ROMANCE AFTER PARENTING

An article posted on the web site for Family Life Today discusses how children can dominate your marriage if you don’t find creative ways to make that less so. Please click onto the link below:

THOSE LITTLE “FOXES” THAT ROB MARRIAGE OF ROMANCE

And finally, there is a lot of controversy about having your children sleep in your marriage bed overnight, but one thing that is for sure, if your marriage isn’t nurtured (as well as your children) the marriage may not survive, and then the children as well as both of you lose out BIG TIME! Please click onto the link below for the Family Life Today website to read more on this:

YOUR MARRIAGE COMES FIRST