It’s almost as if Pastors and their spouses have a bulls-eye invisibly painted upon their marriages! It seems as if the enemy of our faith targets them and their families all the more because of the impact they have in poking holes in the spiritual darkness surrounding this world, and their “downfall” has the potential to do so much damage to so many.

Also, because of the dynamics of the pastor’s job —in ministering and showing compassion to those who are in emotional pain, pastors can be idealized because of the care they are showing to the one who is hurting. They are then vulnerable to having others attracted to them. Because of the chemistry the situation can bring, a mutual attraction can develop even though neither “thought it would or could happen.”

We hear of this scenario happening continually all throughout the world. Not only is this heart-breaking for the families involved, but it must terribly tear against the heart of God!

For this reason, Pastors and their spouses have to be all the more diligent in putting up hedges to protect their marriages and their family life.

There are many books and magazine articles on this subject (many of which we have posted on our web site) that can help you. Also, the ministry of Focus on the Family, Canada, has a great article written by Dr Simon Sheh, which is posted on their web site in their Clergy Care section that can give you some good insights.

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• How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and Protect Ministry Relationships

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