Read the following and see if you agree with authors Bill and Pam Farrel (from their book, Red Hot Monogamy):

“In a marriage, sex is the spice that rescues our relationships from becoming mundane pursuits of chores. Adult life is filled with responsibilities. We have mortgages to pay, yard work to maintain, laundry to clean, cars to service, and so on. But none of us got married so we could load up on chores. We got married out of hope. We got married because we believed there was some kind of magic between us. We got married because we believed we could have great sex together.

“A satisfying sex life can add dignity to all the other pursuits of life. It is the thing to look forward to after a dull or miserable day at work. Sex is the moment of connection that creates a deep bond, even when sprinkled weeks or months apart. Sexual union adds an underlying deposit of strength that can help hold couples together when life threatens them apart. …God gave you this gift to be enjoyed, savored, and strengthened. When you enhance your overall marital well-being, the rest of your life is more effective in accomplishing God’s purpose for you.”

As you read the above statements we believe that most of us would agree that having a satisfying sex life and having a romantic life together as husband and wife is important to the health of our marriages. And yet how is that possible after you have children and you’re so tired and preoccupied (and sometimes even the desire is gone)?

As authors, David and Claudia Arp testify (which so many couples have found to be true):

“As soon as the baby arrives, nearly every aspect of your relationship changes —including your love life.”

So, how do you have a marital love life and how do you find the time and energy to have a satisfying sex life together as husband and wife after you start to have children?

We’d like to link you to several articles below that may give you some guidance in that area of your life. To read them, click on the links below.

• SEX AFTER KIDS?

• MOTHERHOOD AND LOVERHOOD

• SURVIVING THE DIAPER PHASE

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