-By Cindy Wright

This is an optional tool for the mentoring couple to use with the married couple they’ll be meeting with. The following are questions you can ask them at any time if you desire to do so:

• What do you consider to be the role of the husband in your marriage?

 

• What do you consider to be the role of the wife in your marriage?

 

• On a scale of 1-10 how would you rate your satisfaction in your marriage (with 1 being: not satisfied at all and 10 being you’re absolutely delighted with how things are going) ?

 

• What do you see as the top 3 strengths in your marriage?

 

• What three things would you most like to change about yourself as a spouse? Why?

 

• What do you see as the specific needs you have as a married couple?

 

• What do you feel are your greatest challenges in your married life at this point?

 

• Do you spend time building your relationship together by dating each other each week? If not, why not?

 

• Do you spend planning time together weekly discussing family matters, unresolved issues, scheduled events, budgeting, household and yard tasks, blessings, and other concerns? If not, would you like help with that?

 

• How satisfied are you with how you resolve conflicts? Do you think you’re able to resolve them in a healthy, respectful manner? If not, what seems to be the problem?

 

• Are you as close to God as a couple as you’d like? If not, what’s holding you back?

 

• What goals do you have together? What do you think God wants to do through you as a married couple that He may not have done through you as individuals?

 

• What kind of a marriage do you want to build?

 

• How do you picture your marriage in 10 years, (ideally)?

 

• What makes you feel “loved, honored, and cherished” by your spouse?

 

• How would you describe your relationship with each of your immediate family members when you were growing up?

 

• What is your relationship like with them now?

 

• Do you think your relationship with family members brings stress to your marriage? If so, how?

 

• What is your relationship like with your In-laws?

 

• Are there relational bridges you need or want to build or rebuild with your families? If so, what are they?

 

• Is there an issue in your married life that you’d like advice or insights on today?

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