When you think of mentoring another couple your first thought could be what effect it would have on the couple who are being mentored.

We’ve personally thought of how very many mistakes we might not have made and how having another couple walk along-side of us during our first years of marriage, could have helped buffer the damage that was done when we made stupid naive mistakes. The encouragement and knowledge that someone was praying for us would also have helped so much! That’s what excited us about investing in other couple’s lives to mentor them in their earlier years of marriage.

But what we didn’t realize is that mentoring another couple not only helps the mentorees, but it also benefits those that are the mentors. It can be referred to as a “Boomerang Effect.” You set out to help another marriage and in the process your own marriage is also strengthened.

You don’t DO it for that reason —  to save your own marriage, but it can further strengthen your own marriage. Dr Les Parrott, from the Center of Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University, says this about Marriage Mentoring:

“Let me say at the outset that not everybody is cut out to be a marriage mentor. For example, some couples might want to be mentors for the wrong reason—to salvage what little marriage they have left. Or one spouse might be really motivated, but the other mate isn’t. That’s not going to work. It has to be a team effort.”

But if you can reach out from the healthiness of your own marriage and do it as a team, you will find so many benefits to mentoring, that you will be very pleasantly surprised!

To explain this further, we will refer you to two articles which are posted on two different helpful web sites in the hope that you will consider mentoring another couple. Just click onto the links below:

• COUPLES TO MENTOR OTHER COUPLES

• THE BOOMERANG EFFECT OF MENTORING

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